Brian? How are you able to detach, stay neutral, spend so much time alone, travel alone, eat alone, be quiet, sit still, stay optimistic, and still be so handsome?

Don’t answer, it’s rhetorical.

… but the answer is simple: I value reliability, consistency, and personal boundaries in my life. These are the pillars that keep me grounded. My routines and commitments help me maintain balance and productivity, and I take them seriously. When I make promises to myself or to others, I follow through. I’m the friend who shows up, the one you can count on. But that level of commitment isn’t always reciprocated.

I understand that friends (and romantic interests) might want more spontaneity from me. But for me, respecting boundaries and individual ways of living is just as important. When I hesitate to drop everything and change my plans at the last minute, it’s not because I don’t care. It’s because I’m committed to my own well-being and the promises I’ve made to myself.

Just because I don’t, doesn’t mean I can’t.

I do step outside my comfort zone at times. But I’d appreciate if those close to me could understand that structure matters to me. The Virgo in me thinks there’s always room for compromise, like planning spontaneous moments ahead of time. That way, I can adjust without disrupting the balance that keeps me grounded.

The end game is about mutual understanding. By respecting each other’s boundaries and communicating openly, we can strengthen our relationships and find balance between spontaneity and stability.

O. B. TramueL