Don't Disappoint Yourself
One of the most common causes of self-defeat (meaning failure in our career or relationships) is the expectation that others will see us as a disappointment. Maybe our parents saw us this way, or perhaps we experienced our mother or father acting this out in his or her life. Though consciously we want to do well and be successful, an emotional conflict is created by our lingering expectation of being a disappointment. The most painful aspect of this emotional attachment is our own sense of being a disappointment to ourselves. Most people with this emotional challenge do not understand how determined they are, unconsciously, to hold on to the feeling of disappointment.