When Girls Don't Put Out

I never quite figured out why the sexual urge of men and women differ so much. And I never have figured out the whole Venus and Mars thing. I have never figured out why men think with their head and women with their heart.

FOR EXAMPLE:

    One evening last week, my girlfriend and I were getting into bed. Well, the passion starts to heat up, and she eventually says, 'I don't feel like it, I just want you to hold me.'

        I said, 'WHAT??!! What was that?!'

So she says the words that every boyfriend on the planet dreads to hear..   

'You're just not in touch with my emotional needs as a woman enough for me to satisfy your physical needs as a man.'

    She responded to my puzzled look by saying, 'Can't you just love me for who I am and not what I do for you in the bedroom?'

    Realizing that nothing was going to happen that night, I went to sleep.

    The very next day I opted to take the day off of work to spend time with her. We went out to a nice lunch and then went shopping at a big, big unnamed department store. I walked around with her while she tried on several different very expensive outfit s. She couldn't decide which one to take, so I told her we'd just buy them all. She wanted new shoes to compliment her new clothes, so I said, 'Let's get a pair for each outfit.'

    We went on to the jewelry department where she picked out a pair of diamond earrings. Let me tell you... She was so excited. She must have thought I was one wave short of a shipwreck. I started to think she was testing me because she asked for a tennis bracelet when she doesn't even know how to play tennis ...

    I think I threw her for a loop when I said, 'That's fine, honey.' She was almost nearing sexual satisfaction from all of the excitement. Smiling with excited anticipation, she finally said, 'I think this is all Dear, let's go to the cashier.'

    I could hardly contain myself when I blurted out, 'No honey, I don't feel like it.'

Her face just went completely blank as her jaw dropped with a baffled, 'WHAT?'

    I then said, 'Honey! I just want you to HOLD this stuff for a while.You're just not in touch with my financial needs as a man enough for me to satisfy your shopping needs as a woman.'

    And just when she had this look like she was going to kill me, I added, 'Why can't you just love me for who I am and not for the things I buy you?'

    Apparently I'm not having sex tonight either.......but at least that b*tch knows I'm smarter than her.

Mercury Retrograde

I'm witnessing (Nike I need a Puppet) so many folks going through it!

The reason is ...

Mercury retrograde in Libra & Virgo  [Sep. 7 – Sep. 29, 2009]

At 04:46 UT (Universal Time), on Monday, September 7th, 2009, Mercury the cosmic trickster turns retrograde at 6°13' Libra, in the sign of the Scales, sending communications, travel, appointments, mail and the www into a general snarlup! The retro period begins some days before the actual turning point (as Mercury slows) and lasts for three weeks or so, until Sep. 29, when the Winged Messenger reaches his direct station. At this time he halts and begins his return to direct motion through the zodiac.

Everything finally straightens out on October 18, as he passes the point where he first turned retrograde. Mercury normally turns retrograde three times a year, but this year he turns tail four times, which is unusual. The effects of each period differ, according to the sign in which it happens (see box for Retrograde Periods in 2009).

A planet is described as retrograde when it appears to be moving backwards through the zodiac. According to modern science, this traditional concept arises in the illusory planetary motion created by the orbital rotation of the earth with relation to other planets in our solar system. Planets are never actually retrograde or stationary, they just seem that way due to this cosmic shadow-play. Click here for more on the science of retrograde planetary motion.

Retrograde periods, although often problematic for us earthlings, are not particularly uncommon. Each planet retrogrades, except the Sun and Moon

Although a powerful astrological influence, Mercury is quite a small planet that travels at a relatively fast speed through the zodiac. Despite being the closest planet in our solar system to the Sun, he is not always in the same sign as the Sun. This time, Mercury turns retrograde in Libra (relationships; tastes; harmony) while the Sun is in Virgo (analysis; critical ability), but retrogrades into Virgo at the Virgo New Moon on Sep. 18 (while the Sun of course is still in Virgo). The Sun moves into Libra at the Equinox on Sep. 22 while Merc is still in Virgo, but Mercury soon heads back to join the Sun in Libra on Oct. 10.
Fated Events

As a rule, retrograde planets mark a period of seemingly inevitable or fated events that relate to their sphere of influence. Unresolved issues from the past tend to rear their heads. Retro phases present us with a series of events over which we seem to have little or no conscious control, relating especially to the sign in which the retrogradation occurs. For example, Mercury retrograde in Libra (relationships; tastes; harmony) awakens quite different sets of circumstances from those generated when he retrogrades into Virgo (analysis; critical ability).

A retrograde period is best seen as a cycle, beginning when a planet begins to slow to a halt before travelling backwards through the zodiac, and ending when it returns to the point where it first paused. However, during the cycle, a planet's energy is most powerful (and more likely to generate critical events of universal importance) when the planet makes a station: appearing motionless in the sky.

These stationary periods occur near the beginning of the cycle (when the planet first halts as it prepares to move backwards) and midway through the cycle when the retrograde planet slows to a stop before moving forward again. The direct station (when the planet halts before moving forward again) is the most powerful and can be used for maximum benefit.

Many astrologers consider that the "Mercury Shadow" begins between two and three weeks before the actual retro station, so the "shadow phase" begins on August 18, when Mercury passes the point of direct station for the first time in this cycle. This has some justification, but I am more inclined to think that the really noticeable peculiarities begin when Mercury slows significantly, a few days before the retro station. This period of "Mercury Shadow" extends to the Return date, something under three weeks after the direct station. Bear this in mind, because experience shows that the effects of the retro period are still marked during the shadow phase. Some of the most characteristic annoyances often occur just after Mercury makes the direct station, while he is crawling forward before picking up speed.

What does Mercury affect?

In general, Mercury rules thinking and perception, processing and disseminating information and all means of communication, commerce, education and transportation. By extension, Mercury rules people who work in these areas, especially those who work with their minds or their wits: writers and orators, commentators and critics, gossips and spin doctors, teachers, travellers, tricksters and thieves.

Mercury retrograde gives rise to personal misunderstandings; flawed, disrupted, or delayed communications, negotiations and trade; glitches and breakdowns with phones, computers, cars, buses, and trains. And all of these problems usually arise because some crucial piece of information, or component, has gone astray or awry.

It is not exactly wise to make important decisions while Mercury is retrograde, since it is likely that such decisions will be clouded by misinformation, poor communication and careless thinking. Mercury is all about mental clarity and the power of the mind, so when Mercury is retrograde these intellectual characteristics tend to be less acute than usual, as the critical faculties are dimmed. Make sure you pay attention to the small print

The Key Issue

The key issue here is one of focus. Mercury's retro phase tends to bring unforeseen changes and blockages, but the aggravation and frustration that many of us experience during these periods is often due to our own inability to roll with the punches. Is this due to our ego-fixation?

Mercury sets out to restructure our thinking processes and for many of us this is painful and frustrating. Unresolved issues from the past tend to push themselves forward. Moreover, these experiences reveal flaws in our internal organisation as well as our external planning, which can make us feel foolish and inadequate.

Mercury retrograde, like any cosmic aspect, affects people differently, depending on where it hits their personal charts. Some people actually prosper under a retro Mercury, especially if Mercury is retrograde but otherwise well-aspected in their birth charts. It is also a time when matters begun under a previous retro period will come to fruition, or completion as the case may be. Firm decisions that have been previously made when Mercury is travelling normally through the zodiac may be implemented or finalised while Mercury is retrograde without too much worry, for experience shows that this can be done without undue problems arising.

 

SOURCE: http://www.astrologycom.com/mercret.html#sign

The man That Sleeps On the Floor Can Not Fall Out of Bed

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One of the most common causes of self-defeat (meaning failure in our career or relationships) is the expectation that others will see us as a disappointment. Maybe our parents saw us this way, or perhaps we experienced our mother or father acting this out in his or her life. Though consciously we want to do well and be successful, an emotional conflict is created by our lingering expectation of being a disappointment. The most painful aspect of this emotional attachment is our own sense of being a disappointment to ourselves. Most people with this emotional challenge do not understand how determined they are, unconsciously, to hold on to the feeling of disappointment.

Seeing Clearly

After watching Hitch for the ump'tinth time 2'day and drawing inspiration from the love doctor. I feel that I should impart my impractical wisdumb upon the Earth cause folks is going through it ~

All day long I've been providing advice and counsel ... I'ont know if "I" was sought out specifically to be a willing conduit into the world of men or if it was because I was the first ninja without a full-time day job  they could get a hold of. (But that's not the point, please keep up)

Maddening, exalting, thrilling and frustrating « The promise of "a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E" that's right kids LOVE. I will no longer write this word out as it has caused so much confusion 2'day. Let's call it "a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E" ... anyway what was I saying ¿ Oh yeah a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E continues to drive folk into insanedness (ßrianism) trying to find the perfect partner. Here is something that The Merciless God of Perfection doesn't want you to know » Perfection may not be worth the price, you are only human ... relax.

Ya'll didn't see my tweet 2'day from Twitter  well if you were following MrTramueL on Twitter at http://twitter.com/MrTramueL you would have *Clears Throat for Speech* Mr.TramueL on the reflecting pool ...be careful what you wish for, Physical attraction isn't everything.

Physical vs Chemical in a physical reaction two substances are mixed or ground together without being transformed, meaning both can be recovered from such a mixture in their original state. A chemical reaction, on the other hand, produces an entirely new substance, one that is very different from either of the reactants and does not easily yield the original substances back again. *Science* ... I know, I know you have questions,"Mr.TramueL what are you talking about? I thought we were discussing a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E?" and you are right we are but Mr.TramueL's Law Of  intellectual Obscurity States: What fun is it to be a willing counduit into the world of men if you make yourself easy to understand? (Please stay on your toes) A relationship is more like the resulting compund in a chemical reaction - it is a discrete third entity that is more than just the mixture of the two, a whole new substance.

I'ont feel like writing any more so Imma just hip you with a few points to make your relationship last (do as I say not as I do) that's right Mr.tramueL is a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E enabler.

  • Refuse to allow others to push your buttons. One trick is to grow a whole new set of buttons that can not be easily pushed.
  • Try to distinguish between needs and wants. What you seem to want most is not what you really need, in most cases.
  • Give unconditionally.To give while expecting a return or certain results is the same as paying for something.

 P.S. Has anyone seen Cressida? I ain't talking about a Toyota either, Robinne Lee ... she played Cressida Baylor in Hitch. I sure would like to react with her.


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Unspoken Communication

"She" said ... we need to communicate more.
Mr.TramueL™ Translation: I need to communicate more? (Rhetorical)

We need to even out highs & lows We need to take time to explain ourselves We need to spend more time 2'gether

... I guess we shouldn't take communication for granted

MURDEROUS | A FULLER PERSPECTIVE

 

I often sigh with relief,

When from these dreams I awake,

Blood spatter, brain matter,

Gurgling sounds the dying make,

Convulsing with gibberish,

Clawing at air,

Darting pupils lose focus,

Glaze over to stare,

If they went down fighting,

Look under their nails,

Or see if they drew blood,

Telling dead men's tales,

I have dreams of torture,

Rounds fired through joints,

Semi-automatic muzzle flashes,

Ligaments exploded by hollowpoints,

The brain wants to live,

The body wants to die,

As if appealing to reason,

I keep hearing "WHY?!?"

Convinced we are strong,

Our bodies are weak,

Vertabrae snap with a twist,

Blades easily spring leaks,

Suicide is just selfish,

Welcome to my hell,

Ive watched your so-called lives,

From the abyss in which I dwell,

Even the strongest don't survive,

When cutoff from breath,

Life's one guarantee,

Is randomness of death.

This was written by Edward Fuller *Always Deep* ... WFHS Standup!

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his own life? (Luke 12:25)

I felt compelled to share my thoughts because this verse has been the topic of much discussion in my life for the past few months. It has touched me in most of my most important relationship categories; love, friendship, family & work.

Amicability & Animosity - Free yourself from unnecessary worry, accentuate the positive, beware of invidous comparisons.

Freedom from Negativity - Resepct differences & don't try to gloss over or eliminate them. Try to emancipate yourself from old scripts.

Well Camouflaged

Why hide? Let other people see what you are really like ...


Why do women automatically assume that a man is trying to holla, run game or get the goodies? No b*tch sweetie we work 2’gether, I’m just trying to extend some professional courtesy. Trying to show yo’ crusty ass feet some love.

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*Stepping Away For a Minute* I have low tolerance for nasty, dark baby toes! Please stop going to the Chinese shop at the mall and go to a spa. I only like crust on my pizza.

*... and I'm back* I’ve been told that I give off an air of “unapproachedness” « TramueLism™ ... okay maybe ♬the first time ever you saw my face♬ but after 7 years? Really? You still can’t make eye contact and part your lips to at least smile? It must be so hard walking around with a platinum vagina huh? I know, I know "My short skirt is a liberation flag in the women's army. I declare these streets, any streets, my vagina's country." (The Vagina Monologues)

From now on you get the Gas Face

 

It's me ... Mr.TramueL

Emotional Polemics

•August 13, 2009 • Leave a Comment (Edit)

Struggling with ideas, methods, outlook and concept in a relationship ¿ (No need to answer it was rhetorical) Differences like these can lead into polemical  attacks on each other in almost any area of daily life » probably leads to endless discussions and confrontations.

I’m learning to accept opposing points of view and to limit the scope of  disagreements. Bringing up shit “things” from five or six months ago is a mute point and should be addressed with out the “ed” {… kids stay on your toes “in the present tense.”}

Sometimes we sit around arguing about nothing over think things and make too much out of nothing , my personal situation is soo much deeper than I’m willing to share with the world, however because I asked (Rhetorically) here is a TramueLism™ … most men want to be in a committed relationship with a woman , I mean how long can you keep smashing chicks with reckless abandonment and continue having endless one night standsdoing me”. « Women love to call BS on this but us men think different. We have an incessant need to  make sure things are right {education and career} before we take the next step. No one wants to walk in and over hear that conversation between yo’ woman and her girls § cause’ if things aren’t right you know it’s coming up in the next “This Nicka Ain’t Isht” meeting §

DISCLAIMER: The random thought of “smashing girls … ” was an attempt at levity and not an endorsement for being unhealthily addicted to sex misguided souls.

NEEDED: A Practical Modus Vivendi

NEEDED: A Practical Modus Vivendi

Women wearing "stomach shirts" with well ... Stomachs

I wish I could take a picture of this (insert explicative here) but the sound from my flash would alert the "Decepticons" of my intent. They need not worry, I have no intentions of super imposing Halle's head on their body. I ain't in the best shape but you won't see me in a speedo thong! To quote Trey Songz "Yo nickas should have clowned you for puttin' that (anotha explicative) on" Seeing it put me on life support ... when her friend walked in with the same ish on it pulled the plug.