Today I remind myself and y’all of the self-locality of my views, assumptions, and conclusions, and to explicitly affirm the right of y’all to hold your own but I ain’t gon’ hold y’all, this is my post so find something safe to do. 

We bastardized the terms we use in relationships, the number one stunner “emotionally available.” There are women using this as a talking point and posted as the headline on their dating/ social media profile. I find it curious when I consider the women who are using this, my observation is that they themselves have negative emotional attachments showing up as a hidden appeal of deprivation.