Independently Dependent - O. B. TramueL

Independently Dependent - O. B. TramueL

Recently I wrote about meeting people where they are. 

MEETING PEOPLE WHERE THEY ARE

Young, Middle Age, and Older Adults

Over the past ten years, I have connected with truly remarkable people. Our lives go better connecting with those who help us evolve into our higher selves. Life has taught me to see the best in people, and it’s driven me mental when people see the worst in me. Life should say show them the best in themselves because they forget that. Self-improvement is a two-way street.

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Forty One Years To Life ... Jay

AGE - A three letter word with so much meaning.To start things off, let me take a page of out Mr. TramueL’s book and share a few definitions of the word with you.

As a noun, AGE is defined as a period of human life, measured by years from birth, usually marked by a certain stage or degree of mental or physical development and involving legal responsibility and capacity.

As a verb, AGE means to bring to maturity.

Lastly, there is the idiom of AGE which refers to being old enough for full legal rights and responsibilities.

As you can see there are a number of different definitions for the word AGE. Personally, I believe the word revolves around the evolution and maturation of our being. It has everything to do with the steps we take and the moves we make. At the end of our lives it is the sum of all of our movements, decisions and choices; with each one stemming from the very moment that we were conceived. Now when I say conceived, I’m not referring to our natural conception. I’m referring to our conception in the mind and heart of GOD. It is my belief that in that moment the aging process began for each of us. In that moment, we were formed, created, given unique personalities and characteristics and filled with a LOVE like none other, by HIM. It is for that reason that I define age as GOD’S masterpiece of our life. It contains every element that HE used to create us and the minor additions that HE gave us the free will to include. That is why I think age is such a beautiful thing.

There are many people who go through life and they dread the aging process. All they can see is the negative and the limitations. Well, I want to tell everyone who reads this that aging is not a bad thing. Just the opposite, it is a marvelous thing. Yes, we may begin to look different and even lose the ability to do things that we once did with ease, but I believe it’s for a reason. GOD has a season and a purpose for everything, including our lives. There is a reason why our looks change and we can no longer do certain things. It’s because those things have already been added to our masterpieces. Think of it like a painting. A painter may begin using the color black and that color may be used to form and shape the image that is desired for that work of art, but at some point the painter is going to stop using the color black and begin using different colors. Do you know why? It’s because if the painter doesn’t stop using the color black, or even picks it back up after adding other colors, and continues painting the canvas black then eventually that will be the only color on that work of art. Nothing but black. No variety. No color. No clear image, picture or design. Just black. How appealing do you think that would be?

The same applies to GOD’S masterpiece of our lives. HE wants variety. HE wants color. HE wants beauty. HE also knows that HE is the creator and is in control of the way our masterpiece will look, but HE does allow us to add our own uniqueness to it every once in awhile. We can’t take the paintbrush from HIM. We can’t paint our masterpiece of our lives for HIM. This is what I think a lot of people have lost sight of. They believe they are in control of their lives. They believe they are the one holding the paintbrush and dictating what appears on the canvas. Well, they are sadly mistaken. It is GOD alone who is the creator. Think about it. I believe if it were left up to us, many of us would have black canvases. Also, I think many of us would have identical canvases. No variety. No uniqueness. We would likely do it our way or copy the way that someone else was doing it. GOD doesn’t want that for our lives. HE wants all of us to age differently, because HE wants each of us to have a unique and one of a kind piece of art.

So now it is time that you start looking at your aging as a wonderful thing. Enjoy the things that you can still do and be happy that you can no longer do the things you once did. Know that there is truly a reason for that. It’s time for you to love who you are and love GOD for creating you. Make the most out of each step you take, every word you say and all of the precious decisions and choices you make. They all have meaning behind them. They all define you. Most importantly, they all are being added to the masterpiece of your life that GOD is crafting.

Stay Blessed,

*J

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TEAM OF ME

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Interview

My writing process is generally born from my observations of the world around me, life and all of it’s ironic twist. Often transcribed as my attempt at levity of any given situation. I use wit and sarcasm to fulfill a psychological need (fantasy) because my will is directed inwards, often times I try to find a path for it, a path that will allow me to "get away from it all" at least some of the time. T(!)his is generally why I go way off into left field of the point I want to make in my post sometimes most times, so today I’m going to give it to you up front. The point that is. Bad Boy Baby #TakeThatTakeThat

My observations may appear as sharp, insulting or that I’m making light of a particular situation. When in reality I’m trying to assign meaning to what others might consider "ordinary" events. It is so completely natural for me to accept that there is more to the world than what is before my eyes.

“Team of Me” – The Point

I’m not a do-gooder nor am I a law-breaker. However, I’m not afraid of the "dark side" of human nature and will bend the rules from time to time if needed. I’m an introvert and it is more apparent to me now more than ever. Via forbes.com  … Thinking first and talking later (Check), focus on depth (Check), exude calm (Check), prefer writing to talking (Check), embrace solitude (Check). It’s a gift and an “opportunity” for me when it relates to …

Friendship

The Gift: I’m a giver & usually quick to help others, not only with er’day common task such as help with a move, sharing information & taking yo’ mama to the store, but also on a spiritual or psychological level.

The Opportunity: To counsel using God’s word. What I’ve found is that most of my thinking is related to HIM, I just never give HIM credit. Thus …

Spiritual Growth

The Gift: I take particular pleasure in growth and life's lessons. I’m an eternal student, so I am constantly transforming, evolving, and seeking a deeper relationship.

The Opportunity: Although I seek God’s love, sometimes I run from it. God is light, the fear of His Energy Star CFLs rated bulb shining on all of the things that are defaced or concealed in me brings realness to my conscience and how I perceive things. {This is a whole ‘notha post} The point: To have God become closer to me has meant facing up to the things about me I don’t like or want to see.

Love

The Gift: I don’t like to brag, so I won’t.

The Opportunity: Learning to receive. We can define, debate, quote, reminisce and site examples of what a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E is or should be, but if we are not open to receive. Null.

*The Close* I can be emotional to the point of irrationality at one moment, and logical the next. How to blend my head and heart is a constant struggle. Moodiness {It’s complicated … my tendency to over analyze can give the the appearance of emotional detachment} and an extremely subjective nature makes me prone to hypersensitivity, which usually has to do with the fact that I take in so much from my environment. ☚That gives you Mr.TramueL’s Observations. Which takes us back up top & starts the writing process.

Mr. “I took time out to really emote and understand my own thoughts & may end up baffling others” TramueL