Attachment VS Detachment

Of Attachment

A feeling that binds one to a person, thing, cause, ideal, or the like; devotion; regard.


Of Detachment

Willingness to accept that you cannot change or control a person, place or thing.

Ability to maintain an emotional bond of love, concern and caring without the negative results of rescuing, enabling, fixing or controlling.


Attachment VS detachment, find balance.

I Am.

Forty One Years To Life ... Jay

AGE - A three letter word with so much meaning.To start things off, let me take a page of out Mr. TramueL’s book and share a few definitions of the word with you.

As a noun, AGE is defined as a period of human life, measured by years from birth, usually marked by a certain stage or degree of mental or physical development and involving legal responsibility and capacity.

As a verb, AGE means to bring to maturity.

Lastly, there is the idiom of AGE which refers to being old enough for full legal rights and responsibilities.

As you can see there are a number of different definitions for the word AGE. Personally, I believe the word revolves around the evolution and maturation of our being. It has everything to do with the steps we take and the moves we make. At the end of our lives it is the sum of all of our movements, decisions and choices; with each one stemming from the very moment that we were conceived. Now when I say conceived, I’m not referring to our natural conception. I’m referring to our conception in the mind and heart of GOD. It is my belief that in that moment the aging process began for each of us. In that moment, we were formed, created, given unique personalities and characteristics and filled with a LOVE like none other, by HIM. It is for that reason that I define age as GOD’S masterpiece of our life. It contains every element that HE used to create us and the minor additions that HE gave us the free will to include. That is why I think age is such a beautiful thing.

There are many people who go through life and they dread the aging process. All they can see is the negative and the limitations. Well, I want to tell everyone who reads this that aging is not a bad thing. Just the opposite, it is a marvelous thing. Yes, we may begin to look different and even lose the ability to do things that we once did with ease, but I believe it’s for a reason. GOD has a season and a purpose for everything, including our lives. There is a reason why our looks change and we can no longer do certain things. It’s because those things have already been added to our masterpieces. Think of it like a painting. A painter may begin using the color black and that color may be used to form and shape the image that is desired for that work of art, but at some point the painter is going to stop using the color black and begin using different colors. Do you know why? It’s because if the painter doesn’t stop using the color black, or even picks it back up after adding other colors, and continues painting the canvas black then eventually that will be the only color on that work of art. Nothing but black. No variety. No color. No clear image, picture or design. Just black. How appealing do you think that would be?

The same applies to GOD’S masterpiece of our lives. HE wants variety. HE wants color. HE wants beauty. HE also knows that HE is the creator and is in control of the way our masterpiece will look, but HE does allow us to add our own uniqueness to it every once in awhile. We can’t take the paintbrush from HIM. We can’t paint our masterpiece of our lives for HIM. This is what I think a lot of people have lost sight of. They believe they are in control of their lives. They believe they are the one holding the paintbrush and dictating what appears on the canvas. Well, they are sadly mistaken. It is GOD alone who is the creator. Think about it. I believe if it were left up to us, many of us would have black canvases. Also, I think many of us would have identical canvases. No variety. No uniqueness. We would likely do it our way or copy the way that someone else was doing it. GOD doesn’t want that for our lives. HE wants all of us to age differently, because HE wants each of us to have a unique and one of a kind piece of art.

So now it is time that you start looking at your aging as a wonderful thing. Enjoy the things that you can still do and be happy that you can no longer do the things you once did. Know that there is truly a reason for that. It’s time for you to love who you are and love GOD for creating you. Make the most out of each step you take, every word you say and all of the precious decisions and choices you make. They all have meaning behind them. They all define you. Most importantly, they all are being added to the masterpiece of your life that GOD is crafting.

Stay Blessed,




Destroy & Rebuild VS Build From The Ground Up


Destroy: To render ineffective or useless; nullify; neutralize; invalidate.

Rebuild: To re:place, re:strengthen, or re:inforce.

With excitement and enthusiasm we all look to conquer the task at hand. Whether it is something in our personal lives; weight loss, repainting our bedrooms, rebuilding our relationships {Immediate & Extended} or the eco system surrounding our lives; education reform, neighborhood revitalization, green living, alternative fuel and even more specific for me, world domination. We are ultimately faced with a challenge and it can be summed up with one word ... bureaucracy.

The amount of work might be the same, however bureaucracy makes both sides of the "VS" equal. Science.

Science is true, don't be mislead by facts.  

Mr. "Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they are NOT out to get you" TramueL

Attack VS Defend

Master-Yoda-256 Attack

: a belligerent or antagonistic action


: to maintain or support in the face of argument or hostile criticism

: to take action against attack or challenge

“Why?” “What?” “I think …”

Whether you asked or were asked a question starting with one of these word(s) or statement it will undoubtedly spark a thought & as folk process it, it will lead to them defending their behavior | position.

Law of Human Nature: We hate to be wrong. We will defend ourselves, family & friends even when we know they Debo’d that cookie. The reason(s) why? … man I’ont know. Maybe a need for self-approval? I’ve learned that a compulsive need for self-approval can make a person defensive, self-centered, and stubborn. Maybe to save someone from pain? I’ve learned to be responsible for my own negativity. Translation … avoid absorbing others opposition, stay connected to a sense value in yourself.

I guess we have to understand that when we ask “why”, we are going to get “reasons.” Not the truth, not a lie either but because we feel attacked and because we read on page 506 of the Nothing Is Easier Than Fooling Ourselves Handbook where it clearly states avoid saying “I’ont know” or “I can’t really explain”  … we answer quickly, building a foundation to construct that reason && we won’t stop, can’t stop. #BadBoyBaby #TakeThatTakeThat

Mr.TramueL’s Corollary: When we we yield our mighty axe & axe ask someone “why”, we are going to get reason(s) not an effective answer. I have none & therefore offer no solutions, I'm just an observationalist. Hopefully, you the reader can offer some advice.

:: Side Note :: Some of you are vain & will probably think this post is about you, won’t you? You’re right … Communications with September, B’Q, Dwayne & a random lady in line at Costco sparked a thought, a thought sparked a thought process, a process sparked a theory … It’s amazing how we can be separated by age, distance, education, socio & economic backgrounds but have the same thoughts & warring ideals.


Mr. “A theory is always better than its explanation” TramueL

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