As a homebody, people often assume that I am boring or unadventurous, but that's not the case. Just last weekend I went on an adventure. I left my apartment at 7:00 AM and by 7:30 AM, I had spent a hundred dollars easily. I enjoy being at home because everything is paid for, including food, internet, drinks, water, and electricity…
Read MoreWe need healthier, more nourishing relationships with others.
Read — Genuine connections, whether they're fostered online or beyond the scope of social media…
Read MoreI believe the tendency of truth, on this subject, is to equalize the sexes; and that, when truth directs us, there will be no longer assumed authority on one side, or admitted inferiority on the other; but that as we advance in the cultivation of all our powers, physical as well as intellectual and moral, we shall see that our independence is equal, our dependence mutual, and our obligations reciprocal.
-Lucretia Mott
Read More"A good relationship is more than just chemistry - it also has a lot to do with HISTORY, ANATOMY, PHYSICS and ACCOUNTING"
Read MoreThis weekend I took a step back to consider the mood of the people whose lives matter most to me in my family, friends, and co-worker relationship sectors. There is a common theme-
Reset.
Read MoreClairaudient messages sound like someone talking in my mind. It is never harsh. The tone is always even and calm. Usually short messages like Yoda, and at times poetic. Reading, listening, watching, and learning more about intuition is opening my own intuition and clairaudient potential…
Read More“I want you to be happy.”
I’m experiencing amnesia and DeJa’Vu at the same time. I think I’ve written about this before.
Feeling happy for a friend who has prospered, a family member buying a new home, or your kids delighting in your grandchild learning how to walk. I discovered a new concept…
Read MoreI like things in their place, I'm not a neat freak per se but I do like things neat, organized, and in good order – Fastidious.
The word fastidious traces to the Latin noun fastidium, meaning "aversion" or "disgust." Fastidium itself is probably a combination of the Latin words fastus, meaning "arrogance," and taedium, meaning "irksomeness" or "disgust." Shout out to my HS Latin teacher Shirley Wingo.
Read MoreI find it curious that we all believe in and desire peace in our relationships however men and women are constantly fighting on André 3000's innanet’ about the best way to achieve it.
In context of what modern women want from a man; Big bank, big dack, Uptown Condo, Million Dollar Home in Myers Park, drives a Brabus G-Wagon, writes poetry, draws, he's a thug, and a nerd, is lean like a runner, and strong like a weightlifter, he don't eat pork, but eats oysters, pays for hair and nails, buys flowers, pays all the bills, spends all his time with you, takes you to the Cheesecake Factory...
Read MoreA common unsolicited critique of me is that I Am quick to disappear and able to detach from a person, place, or thing. Random observations about nothing and yet everything over the past few weeks have me reconciling this critique.
I strive for equanimity as much as possible. I don't always succeed, I get angry or irritated like everyone else. How did I get to equanimity? We gotta go back to 1991, "Now That We Found Love" What are we gonna do with it?
That's Heavy Man…
Read MoreThe two of you who continue to read my blog know that when I am vulnerable;
Susceptible to emotional injury. Susceptible to attack. Liable to succumb to persuasion or temptation…
Read MoreThere is always a word, phrase, lyric, or theme that when new (to me) will hold my attention for weeks. I will overuse it, and apply it to any situation no matter the context ad nauseam. For the past few weeks the phrase "in the flow of conversation" has been it.
Considering the five Ws - who, what, when, where, and why - I've used the phrase a lot while actually in the flow of conversation…
Read MoreMessenger of Love, Being In Love With the Idea Of, and Masculinity
Of Messenger of Love
I’ve always been fascinated with people valuing the messenger over the message…
Read MoreIn the flow of conversation with a good friend, I assertively talked about my awareness and understanding of the dynamics of aging. In context, the discussion was specific to me as a single unknown black male. The subtext, was specific to me being alone (not lonely) as I age.
Read MoreI took the week off from work without plans and tried to force myself to get up, get out and get something when all I needed was rest and introspection…
Read MoreThere is a quote that reads…
“It is the character of very few Wo/Men to honor without envy a friend who has prospered”
I’ve been holding court with The Key and she has been trying to reconcile envy and jealousy in her relationship categories: Love, Work, Family and Friendships.
Read MoreI B’ chopping it up with The Glaws about life, all its ironic twists, and how they may sometimes startle us. /End Dramatics. I’ve been laughing considering the truth in something she shared with me, I’m paraphrasing but the gist is that we’re attracted to people who look like our parents. All of you that know me also know my preference; five-nine, medium to dark skin, natural (hair, nails, etcetera) …
Read MoreI’m having déjà vu and amnesia at the same time— I think I’ve written this before. Maybe it was a conversation with one of the two of you who read my blog?
The other night I celebrated with a friend on her birthday, there were three of us— It was small and intimate. A week prior I got F.R.E.S.H. with a full haircut to celebrate another friend on her birthday. Due to timing and a need to ‘stay ready,’ I got a ‘fresh up (hair and beard line up) for the weeks’ end activities.
Read MoreJust because it's public, still doesn't make it my business.
I’ve destroyed and rebuilt my online presence at least four times. I’ve used different usernames, UnknownBlackMale having the greatest run, what a time. Then I embraced a different approach. I started using my real name, real photo and I stopped policing how others use social media. It has kept me accountable, when I Am mindful (but not really) of what I post I reduce the risk of my future baby mama seeing me turning up with a bunch of hose.
Read More“… fuck you and your lame ass friends.”
This is a line from a comment on Fair Trade. I couldn’t care less about the comment, but it made me think a lot about friendship and what it means to be a friend. 'Friend' has been bastardized so much that when someone uses it, we aren’t sure if the person means something or they’re just some random nigga they have an eConnection with.
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