Still Have the Weekend

Still Have the Weekend

This weekend there were three fantastic moments where time seemingly stood still, allowing me to store them into a mental rolodex.

Listen to your heART

The Harvey B. Gant Center opened four new exhibitions over the weekend. I know, but I am unable to communicate why art fills us with emotion, I’ve tried to explain but apparently I’ve said it badly.  

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Random Observation #2917

Random Observation #2917

Thug Cry

♬ Came from the hood, ain’t nothing changed/ Still lemon pepper on my motherf*ckin’ wings

Last Monday night was stressful for about twenty-five minutes.

& by stressful I mean annoying.

Lettuce' start with calling Mrs. TramueL before leaving work. I'm leaving later than normal (which is already later than most) I also have to catch a later bus.

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Style and Substance

Style and Substance

2015 Year End Reflection

Improve relationships, healthy living, write more, read more (less television), increase income, increase savings, find ways to stay in love, practice humility (intellectually, socially and emotionally), get organized (in general, but also finances, insurance & other important records), smile & laugh more, grow spiritually and meditate.

My “better thinking” goals are just aspects, some of the parts that make up the whole of 2015. Growth and life’s lessons are (were) a consistent theme.

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Home Away From Our Home

Home Away From Our Home

This past weekend I traveled from Charlotte to Roanoke, the city that raised me. My sister, her husband, their girls and Cooper drove from Georgia, scooped me up and we made the journey up through the mountains to my Aunt Jean's 75th (surprise) birthday party. It is truly an honor to God as she is (and has been) the matriarch of the family since my grandmother's passing. To put that into perspective, I was five.

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The worst thing to be without …

I think about a recent conversation with my mom where we talked about politics and movies. I think about conversations with my cousin who will shoot first and ask questions later but is driven to the point of no return. I think about conversations with my sisters, their stories encompass sacrifices and triumphs in nurturing their own families. We are all absolutely unique and yet the same.

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Joy & Sunshine

Literally and Figuratively Literally

Little MrTramueL laughed the whole weekend hearing my family call me by my childhood nickname.

Watching my neices and nephew grow, learn and delight.

My sisters as care givers.

Watching the happiness it brings my mom & dad of having everyone together in the same place.

Increasing from immediate to extended family, cousins, significant others and friends joined us this year.

The sun shining on my face, the sound of the ocean.

The stillness, calm and presence of thought provided by God to recognize all the joy and sunshine in my life.


I may have been the only one to hear the storm last night. A storm cleared the way for joy and sunshine at the beach today.

Storms don't last forever.

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Initially I sat down to chronicle the sights and sounds of my recent excursion to En Why Cee, however as I started to write the random thoughts, observations and inspiration; direct and indirect that developed from the experience took over …

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Push Me, Pull You

Push Me, Pull You
Push Me, Pull You

Beware of running away from problems.

After a textersation {I just coined this phrase … conversation through texting} with a good friend I’ve realized that I believe I know what other people want, but don’t really know what I need.  My unspoken admiration for the folk that keep me grounded, sane & motivated is the reason for this post. They are a part of my life; some new, some old, some share my blood, some don’t, all-in-all  they all are a part of my family, immediate and extended.

I shine when I serve others in some way and  what I get back in return is far more beneficial to me than any 1ne of them can imagine. They bring me closer to capital {G}od’izzle, by desiring a closer relationship with HIM. They make me want to know more, thus inspiring me to read more & research more. They have taught me to be more honest. {Ya’ll know T!his is a struggle cause I enjoy story-telling and sometimes enjoy bending the truth} They inspire me to be a better father, brother, son & man. Last but not least, they’ve taught me to straighten out confusion or nothing will get done. I have some huge  stones chasing me that I’ve now begun to face and stop running from.

I take in so much from my environment; T!his is one of the reasons why I tend to be indecisive, swinging between irrational and rational thoughts and feelings. It's pretty much something that takes place "upstairs" in my mind, although others are sure to see the struggle from time to time.  I also have a tendency to misrepresent myself with what I say from time to time, but Mr.TramueL is a charming, if a little kooky, friend, father, brother, son & man.

Continue to Push Me & I’ll continue to Pull You.

In Gratitude,

Needing To Be Needed

My determination to always be at my best is typically magnified in most of my relationships granting me little rest. However when that phone call, e-mail or text message comes with those famous words "Hey, What you doing. Guess What?"

… I get all emotional (I'mma keep it short. I don't want another another feminine moment. I can't stand the smell of that night blooming jasmine.)

They picked me! They could have chosen anyone but they chose me! It feels good when I am able to impart my impractical wisdumb upon the earth.

Do as I say not as I do
Be aware of your effect on others.

Do not exhaust yourself in pursuit of the latest trend.

Seek traditional values.

*Remember a house can not be united with it's brothers, sisters, mamas, daddies, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, boos, baby daddies, baby mamas, friend girls and friend guys divided. Now get out there and Unite!


Yesterday I turned 21 a year older, being the intelligently hedonistic person that I am my thoughts turned to my children and how proud I am of them; a daughter whom started College this year, my oldest son starting High School and my youngest son just starting school. I’m really excited that I’m almost finished paying child support! proud of them. They all have different personalities but very similar commonalities.

They all have my last name with the exception of mini me whose mother was on some ole next sh*t decided to hyphenate his last name using my last name first. But that’s another Blog Topic … this is about the fact that between myself, my 3 children, a male cousin and his daughter we are the last to carry the surname Tramuel.

What does my last name mean? If you have ever wondered about the meaning of your last name, where your family lived, what they did, or how they looked, you may find your surname may answer some of these questions about your ancestors. Tramuel is unique in that no other family, at least I haven’t found to be using this particular variation / spelling. Conversations with my mother who is the youngest of 13 children between my Grandfather “A Message to Share” and Grandmother “Fostering Family Talents” have led me to believe that we shouldn’t assume your surname was always spelled the way it is spelled today. Not sure of the exact time Census information started being collected but if you think about it, take the 1800’s when many people were illiterate, names were written by clerks, officials, and priests as they heard the name pronounced. This could have led to different spellings for the same name.

I’ve found a very, very close match with whom I assume to be my grandfather’s father and will continue my search from this new found information. A funny point to add, my aunt told my mother that my grandfather may have used his brother’s first name after he passed.

Surnames were generally derived from one of four sources:

1) Patronymic (from the first name of father)

2) Lives near locality or place

3) Occupation or social status

4) Nicknames describing person or personality

I need a flowchart to figure Tramuel into any of these categories.