Random Observation #2,915

I have friends, co-workers and family members who always offer their opinion or love to make the conversation about them. What I haven't figured out is if this is simply their communication style or if it really should always be about them. I recently had surgery and wanted to keep folks informed, what I received from some were personal stories of failure and what I would do's if I were you's. Unlike the Compassion of Others

I'm pretty good about self-solving [TramueL's Law: A theory is better than its explanation] but I'm also not afraid to ask for help when needed. My be you [tiful] mind broke it down so it is forever and consistently broke.  

In communicating; verbally or electronically I will follow TramueL's Law: 

Self-reference. I will regularly use "to-me" language. My views, value judgements, beliefs, assumptions and conclusions are my own.  Just like everyone else. 

Non-aggression. I will refrain from personal attacks on living souls who disagree with me; no calling out their name, talking about their mama, sarcasm, covert tweets or shade. 

Providing advice. I will provide advice only if solicited. One of the keys to giving advice is knowing when a person actually wants it. I have a girl that is a friend that calls or texts to complain [sometimes daily] but she does not want advice. Even when there is a problem with a clear solution, she will ignore it and continue to complain. At those times, I realize that she only seeks to vent and get the thoughts out of her head. No solution is being sought nor will she implement one in the future. 

The Lost Art of A Greeting



Random Observation About Nothing #1

High on my list of annoyances are failing to acknowledge folks or over thinking an acknowledgement. I’m not sure what is more annoying; Someone looking down at their phone, looking at their watch, eyes down at their feet all to avoid making eye contact and part their lips to speak  or speaking to a woman and she receives it as an attempt to lay horizontally while making animal noises.

To help those that seem detached from common courtesy and in most cases common sense, I’ve included a list of ways to respond when you see folks that you interact with on a daily basis. I wouldn’t encourage these behaviors on the city streets.

Make Eye ContactSmile with your eyes

The Fabled Nod of AcknowledgementUp down or Down up, your choice

The ComplimentBe sincere, even if you have to fake it

The WaveWhatever you do be a man or woman about it, no transference

The SmileNothing is more inviting than a nice set of teeth & a warm mouth

The Hug and or KissNo air kissing READ: Women only, I prefer my kiss on the lips & keep your booty close on the hug, which leads to the …

The Booty SmackBad Boy Baby #TakeThatTakeThat

Mr. “Holla when you see me” TramueL

Photo Credit: Richard Clarkson

Destroy & Rebuild VS Build From The Ground Up


Destroy: To render ineffective or useless; nullify; neutralize; invalidate.

Rebuild: To re:place, re:strengthen, or re:inforce.

With excitement and enthusiasm we all look to conquer the task at hand. Whether it is something in our personal lives; weight loss, repainting our bedrooms, rebuilding our relationships {Immediate & Extended} or the eco system surrounding our lives; education reform, neighborhood revitalization, green living, alternative fuel and even more specific for me, world domination. We are ultimately faced with a challenge and it can be summed up with one word ... bureaucracy.

The amount of work might be the same, however bureaucracy makes both sides of the "VS" equal. Science.

Science is true, don't be mislead by facts.  

Mr. "Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean they are NOT out to get you" TramueL

15 Minute Freestyle

Photobucket “I heard the beat and I ain't know what to write … “

Okay so this ain’t a musical freestyle but a writing freestyle.

“When I’m alone in my room sometimes I stare at the wall …”

Sometimes it’s great to clear your mind. Emotional Intelligence.

On your mark, get set, go!

Why does twenty dollars worth of anything fit into one small bag? & why does said bag equal two large bags of trash?

Downloaded & watched Dairy of a Tired Black Mind for the first time, I wish someone would have spoiled it for me. My eyes hurt. There were some good points though, I think.

I cringe whenever I hear someone on Twitter or Facebook talk about having haters, it’s overused & abused, used more than a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E. I’m with you if it is in fact a true Hate(r), someone who is jealous & envious … but most of the time it’s about disapproval & dissent. Just because someone doesn’t agree with you doesn’t make them a hater. A confident person can accept that others don't like what they like.

Thinking back on the past week I would have to call it the Week of {Self} Honesty. A few of the Blogs I follow & personal communications with folks in all of my relationship sectors were in tune with that. Think I’ll follow up with a complete post.

I’ve been without my cell phone for a week & counting. I’ve come to realize that life doesn’t stop without it. I looked at my usage and it was all data, all the time with an occasional conversation with my offspring & or their mom. BBM, Twitter, Facebook, Email, WordPress, FourSquare & Sexting … I mean Texting. Null.

Speaking of Sexting, I was just playing {unless you gon’ do it} I need a Winter boo, someone to cuddle up with on the up-coming cold nights … but wrap it up! cause’ you don’t won’t that late text, that I think I’m late text. Soo many babies born in September & October. I know some of you are counting nine months backwards now.

I was gonna write something profound and related to God but it wouldn’t be right after just writing about sexting.

Oh! Oh! … There was a good point in the Diary movie, no one said it directly but it was my take away. Be helpful but not overbearing, be encouraging but not intrusive. #TenWordStories <- I’m a trend setter. I don’t follow trends, I set them.

&& sometimes haters are non-existent and created by people to protect their egos.

Speaking of setting trends. I got a saddle-bag for my birthday. Dwayne Wayne from A Different World for ya’ll that may not have a clue. 2455480.22484 just remember today, at this time who bought it back.

Facebook. Deletion inevitable, tired of folks praising God one minute and raising hell the next.


I guess I don’t type that fast … only went back to add the photo’s, I’m gonna post without proofing so forgive any typos in advance!

Hate None,



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Loyalty to ideas. Three days late, however in keeping with my promise to post every Sunday, here are my random observations about the previous week.

Of Excuses

We all have that special acquaintance that complains about everything & yet nothing. You offer your intelligently hedonistic solution and they respond with “No, it’s not that” and provide every excuse why it won’t work, can’t work except for the obvious … they are crazy.

I needed help moving a few large pieces out of storage. The move would have only required an hour with most of that time spent driving from Public Storage to the new spot. I had a full month to move everything, which I was able to do with the exception of the larger pieces. I asked a few people that owned trucks to help me out but was met with excuse, after excuse, weekend after weekend.

Mr.TramueL’s Observation of Excuses: (1) If someone says he will do something "without fail," he won't. (2) Everybody lies, but it doesn't matter, because nobody listens.

Of Transition

Transition into the new space, I always feel at home with books, candles, plants & pictures. My favorite things. I’m able to rest because my space is filled with the things I love, but I haven’t slept well while adjusting if that even makes any sense.

My employer informed me that effective 12/31/2010 our line of business would transition to a completely different role & I was given the opportunity told that I have to decide by September 10, 2010 to state that I was “all in” or it would be considered a voluntary resignation.

Transition whether good or bad carries anxiety and nervous energy that cause you to set high expectations. While loyalty is admirable, sometimes you have to listen to me now & believe me later … Mr.TramueL’s Axiom: Variables won't, constants aren't. Leave.

In case you missed the point, this applies to both personal & business.

Of Superstition

Completely random but I was curious.

New neighbors ended up helping me move my things into my space. They would not enter, they would slide the pieces through the door and ask if I was okay. {Insert sincere appreciation followed by a sarcastic remark} I tried to research it but couldn’t find anything {maybe ‘cause it’s two thirty four in the a.m.}

“Never take a broom along when you move. Throw it out and buy a new one.” Couldn’t find an origin, needless to say I didn’t want to risk whatever consequences so I obliged.

Mr. “all or not at all” TramueL