It always amazes me how folk hide behind a facade of religion and faith, write one social comment praising God and the very next one raising hell. Before you judge anyone for what you perceive to be "A fall from Grace" ... turn the mirror around and ask yourself; Have I cultivated acceptance and understanding? Have I suspended judgments? Have I learned to compromise?
Can't sleep at night? Up at 3:30 a.m. blogging? Well me too. I'm up because of my inner demons.
We all know the feeling of struggling with our demons & sometimes it can feel like a losing battle. One problem is that people don't get enough understanding or clarity about what their demons consist of. It's hard to beat something when you can't clearly see. Inner demons are emotional conflicts.
I'm up cause' I've enslaved myself to my ideas for making life better for me and my folk. I'm in my own personal recession and it's this emotional conflict of having the exepctation that others will see me as a disapointment & add the fact that I worked until 1:00 a.m.
A person who is rich in many ways can still feel deeply deprived and dissatisfied. I'm seeing clearly the inner conflict, and beginning to undermine the power of the negative side of said conflict.
*A weakness for money does not imply power*
Imma stop reaching for this phone or my machine & start my day with prayer.
Our soul waiteth on the Lord. He is our help and our shield. (Pslams 33:20)
Stand up for yourself, a relationship can only do so much for you. Empathy has its good and bad effects. *Try to maintain objectivity*
Written & Drawn By Lena Hopkins-Jackson
10. SWIZZ BEATZ …Okay we all know Alicia Keys is a gorgeous,11 time-Grammy award wining artist BUT imagine how mega producer Swizz Beatz's soon-to-be ex wife Mashonda felt when Lil’ Miss “Teenage Love Affair” kept on falling in and out of Love with HER husband!!! I even read that the heart-broken Mrs. Beatz has been calling Alicia out on 'Twitter', (Oooh! Can 'Facebook' be next?) Well, let's just hope he used some "Ruff Rider”condoms, no tellin’ what else Alicia’s been fallin’ in and out of before Swizz.... After all, talent ain't synonymous with clean, and AIDS is very real.
9. SENATOR JOHN EDWARDS….Edwards is worse than arm-pit sweat considering HE is the one that cheated on his loyal,cancer-ridden wife , ended up with a love child to boot and if nominated would have slid his slimy,scandalous butt right into the democratic spot( ensuring that McCain would've been president!!) That alone earns him a public beat-down and I’m praying for Elizabeth Edwards’ speedy recovery so she can be the one to do it!
8. GOVERNOR MARK SANFORD.....WOW, the Argentinean women in Buenos-Aires must have Aztec gold between their legs, why else would South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford risk everything ( including a shot at the White house!) just for some chocha! Apparently muy caliente’ chocha at that since this jerk even forgot it was 'Father’s Day' it was so good, I wonder if Sanford remembered using taxpayer money to fly to see his mistress, or wanting to impeach President Clinton for HIS affair OR trying to refuse federal funds to help the unemployed? Ladies & gentlemen, this guy needs an enema!
7. BRAD PITT....Now, I like Brad Pitt, I like Angelina Jolie too...but wrong is WRONG! How would YOU feel if your spouse went off to their job, left you for their co-worker, and everybody in the office knew! Well, the whole WORLD knew about this affair and several years later Hollywood is STILL trying to soothe poor, sweet Jennifer Aniston’s ego by offering her movie role after movie role( no matter how much she sucks in them ! ) As for Angelina, she's a man-eater but I gotta’ give props: any chick who can make a man leave his publically-adored & childless wife to go start a 'Rainbow-Coalition-Tribe-From-Around-The- World' with another chick,plus leave Hollywood to go live in (post Katrina) New Orleans-----> needs to bottle that stuff up & sell it on EBayto the highest bidder!
6. BILL CLINTON... What’s to say about"Slick Willie", I eagerly voted for him twice and would have voted for his wife if President Obama had not run, BUT you would think after all those years of whore-doggin’ that Bill could have found a broad that can keep her mouth shut……um, afterward! ;-)
5. LIONEL RICHIE.....Everything was “Easy Like Sunday Morning” for the ex-commodore turned super star until he left his college sweetheart Brenda, for a younger & ( *GASP!*) White woman behind her back! Well, Miz. Richie TRULY wasn’t leaving without a fight; literally! A third-degree black-belt, Brenda Richie went straight Bruce Leroy and “Raaaah-YUKEN-ed!!” both of ‘em...ALL NIGHT LONG! Forget Mike, I wanna’ be like Brenda Richie!!
4. KWAME KILPATRICK.... Then there's the 'Player-Mayor' from Detroit, you would think a big,ole-swole’ Suge Knight lookin' politician like Kwame would know how to handle his bidness without scandal ,but naw! This guy gets caught using of all things: the OFFICE cell-phone to text his mistress!!! (when will folks learn, 'Big Brother' has been watching since "1984"!) With his political & legal career pretty much a wrap, I’m guessing opening a chain of “Big Pimpin’ Men’s Apparel stores is his best bet!
3. DONALD TRUMP.... When you have money like 'The Donald', it would seem that rules that normal people are governed by don’t apply to you....sadly, often they don't. Trump got tired of his first wife Ivanna, so he upgraded to Marla Maples , Trump got tired of her and upgraded to third wife Melania. With all those Trump Billions, it seems he would’ve upgraded to a new barber by now and told the old one “YOU’RE FIRED!” I mean how hard is it to do a decent comb over..... really.
2. GOVERNOR ELIOT SPITZER… $10,000-a-night for ONE hooker???? Puh-leaze,I think you could book the entire female cast of “The Player's Club” for that price, anybody seen Lisa Raye or the chick that played ‘Ronnie' on screen lately?...EXACTLY!
..AND "THE NUMBER 1# CASE OF A MAN WHO CAN'T KEEP IT IN HIS PANTS... (drum roll pleaze!) BOBBY BROWN!!.....C'mon we all saw it happening. I’m sure his peeps warned him to sit his dumb @ss down, be a 'kept man', and enjoy the good life! I bet even “New Edition”tried to SING it to him: “Bobby, be careful of Every-Little-Step-You-Take with those Tenderonies on the side, cuz’ EVERYBODY knows you’re humpin’ around!" But noooooo, Bobby just HAD to be stupid and go sleep on professional jump-off'Superhead's' couch and get video-taped!( I'm sayin'....c'mon dawg'..."Superhead" ???? That broad would write a 'tell-all' about her son feelin’ up on the girlies by his locker if she thought it would sell!) Next thang' you know, Whitney is being consoled by Oprah( ...and once Oprah gets involved...it's over) Last I heard, Bobby’s praying for "VH1 Behind The Music" to call back for part two, ….. keep waitin' pawtnuh! My Two Cent$ Worth........
She said " Ayo B, why dudes keep dropping me? " I said " cause you keep looking for a man to carry you and your sh*t is too heavy" *DROPPED*
Not everyone deserves your trust, keep your individuality alive. Let go of claiming bonds.
TramueL™ Truism ... In certain respects you may be kidding yourself.
Produced by Kanye West *Beat is sick*
Jay-Z ft Kanye West- Hate Lyrics
[Jay-Z]
Haters,
Haters,
These n-ggas haters, and I made myself so easy to love,
[Kanye West]
Yeh, yeh
How much they hate it? very!
Kiss girls like Katy Perry,
I am never sprung but I Springer Jerry,
Don’t try this at home,
Results may vary,
King like T.i But in the Chi, Larry,
[Jay-Z]
Hoover, Hova,
Both are American Gangsters,
You choose whose colder,
Rappers get nasty in the booth but im gross so I can’t even stomach myself, ulcer!
More realer cos I’m closer,
Had girlies in girdles wearing more than they supposed ta,
Poser, no sir,
My hustle, so Russell,
I stretch work, Yoga,
You know i got it down dog, Al Roker,
I used to knock pounds off,
It ain’t nothing for me to knock nouns off,
at these MC’s praying for my downfall,
They just haters, I wave at you,
I’m so player,
I’ll never be done, I’m so rare,
[Kanye West]
We killing the game, its not fair,
You muthaf-ckers stay right there,
cos we too high up in the air,
we blasting off just like a laser,
n-gga, pee-une, pee-une, pee-une
gimme back, gimme room room room,
DB9 like vroom vroom vroom,
Young Hov what we doin doin doin?
[Jay-Z]
We ballin b-tches,
Eating ya food leaving dishes,
Why these n-ggas always talking Lear talk Ye?
Why I never see em at the clear port Ye?
Why I always hear they at the Airport?
Why i fly daily like i’m in the Airforce?
Therefore, please stop talking my ears off,
millionnaire talk,
You haters, you mad at me cos y’all paper,
need to get his muthaf-cking weight up,
Hold up,
wait up, I ain’t done,
name one thing that I ain’t done,
it hurts when you say that I aint the one,
You haters,
How do i gain your favor?
i need to know cause i care,
i need you to love me i swear-ah,
Look here-ah, see Ye is running the Chi like Gale Sayers,
Im running New York, i got the Mayor on my pager,
you can’t fade us, you haters,
i need you, stay back, i breathe you,
like air-ah, air-ah, air-ah,
yeah yeah yeah yeah-a
yeah yeah yeah yeah-a
where are my haters, i love all my haters
love all my haters, I love all my haters,
uh uh uh, haters,
hater hater….
Quitting isn't always either the easiest or the worst alternative. Diplomacy and compromise are often required. Admit weaknesses. Release claims.
They all have my last name with the exception of mini me whose mother was on some ole next sh*t decided to hyphenate his last name using my last name first. But that’s another Blog Topic … this is about the fact that between myself, my 3 children, a male cousin and his daughter we are the last to carry the surname Tramuel.
What does my last name mean? If you have ever wondered about the meaning of your last name, where your family lived, what they did, or how they looked, you may find your surname may answer some of these questions about your ancestors. Tramuel is unique in that no other family, at least I haven’t found to be using this particular variation / spelling. Conversations with my mother who is the youngest of 13 children between my Grandfather “A Message to Share” and Grandmother “Fostering Family Talents” have led me to believe that we shouldn’t assume your surname was always spelled the way it is spelled today. Not sure of the exact time Census information started being collected but if you think about it, take the 1800’s when many people were illiterate, names were written by clerks, officials, and priests as they heard the name pronounced. This could have led to different spellings for the same name.
I’ve found a very, very close match with whom I assume to be my grandfather’s father and will continue my search from this new found information. A funny point to add, my aunt told my mother that my grandfather may have used his brother’s first name after he passed.
Surnames were generally derived from one of four sources:
1) Patronymic (from the first name of father)
2) Lives near locality or place
3) Occupation or social status
4) Nicknames describing person or personality
I need a flowchart to figure Tramuel into any of these categories.
The problem is we're sorry sir,
Your Race Card's been declined,
You could've used it years ago,
Like Diners Club that time,
For Black Men in America,
A new standard's been set,
White House yeah great and all,
Barack's now a Chia Pet!
Green afro sprouting from his dome,
As seen on the TV,
Don King is the only other,
Brother Chia honoree,
You too can have bean sprouts for hair,
Take care of your damn kids!
Marry one of your Baby Mamas...
Hey Ladies! Now place your bids!
Yes you too can get A-head,
By paying attention in class,
Chia Pets don't even rock doo-rags,
Or jeans hanging off their ass,
A Chia head or just ahead,
Act now but wait there's more,
Such an honor you cannot buy,
Offer not available in stores,
To hell with who says you're "acting white,"
When you apply yourself in school,
Learn to speak with proper usage,
Though streetslang is the rule,
When favorite gangsta rappers,
Get out of jail with a felony son,
Likely they have a pain in ass,
Can't vote or get a gun,
We all wear uniforms,
Whether we know it or not,
Are you dressed to get a job?
Or bars three hots and a cot?
You know we're so sorry sir,
Your Race Card's been declined,
Boo-hoo, yeah life's unfair,
Take a number get in line,
Blood was spilled,
In historic amounts,
But you can't draft,
From forebears accounts,
Don't act like you can't hustle,
Seen your curbside marketing skills,
The mark-up for profit is less son,
But I know you can close deals,
For Black Men in America,
A new standard's been set,
Heres your stop get off the ride,
Hey, are we there yet?
We've got a few more blocks to go,
But give thanks for the lift,
So many before did the grunt work,
Let's bust ass this shift!
-Edward Fuller
Fall in Love with the Idea of being in love ....
Show your woman how much you care, improve yourself by acting as this
list suggests. It's unfortunate that we're so insensitive that we
actually need a list like this. Do what it says and you'll be getting
head in the whip in no time!!!!
1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This
will keep her on her toes, and women love that.
2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of
weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really, really hard
until she cries. This will impress her by showing her what a strong
man you are.
3. Once a month sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Women
are like dogs. They love to be roughed up.
4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If
she is, say "you'd better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until
morning. This will show her you care.
5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be
her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement,
and every girl needs some improvement.
6. Recognize the small things; they usually mean the most. Then when
she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them. Because
jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies.
7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When
she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words 'fu*k you,' and grab the
other girl's ass. Women love competition.
8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she
thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning
tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just
kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive
her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something
like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because
I can."
9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick". Women love those
special nicknames.
10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD. (especially immediately
after leaving the hair salon)
11. Warm her up when she's cold... but not by giving her your jacket,
because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and
say, "If you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're
going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is
with fear.
12. Take her to a party. When you get there she'll have to go to the
bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when
the party's dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you
at the party.
13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet.
Kick the pet. I always find stuff like that funny. Why shouldn't
women?
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10
minutes then JUMP UP AND SCREAM IN HER EAR! Repeat until she goes
home and you can use your arms for more important things. Like
basketball, football, holding the remote and beer.
15. Spit often. I hear women like guys that spit.
16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give
her self confidence. Then you can never turn her into the object she
deep down desires to be.
17. Every time you're in her house steal one of the following: shoes,
earrings, or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the
pair. This way she'll go crazy over you.
18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order interrupt
and say "No, she's not hungry". Make her watch you eat. Women love a
guy that speaks for her.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then clock her one. Women love a
spontaneous guy.
20. Give her one of your t-shirts... and make sure it has your smell
on it. But not a sexy cologne smell. A bad smell. You know what I'm
talking about.
21. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her
no. This way she'll think you're mysterious.
22. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her
material objects aren't important. The only thing that's important is
that she keeps you happy. And your happiness is the greatest present
she can ever get.
23. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just
whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then next time you know
she's coming over on a trash day leave the trash can open and have
the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't
like this one that much, but I think it's funny.
24. If she's mad at you for not calling her when you say you will,
promise her that you will call her at a certain time of the day. This
will ensure that she waits by the phone. Tell her when you call
you're going to tell her a special surprise. Now she'll be really
excited. Now don't call. That's also quite funny!
Brian {Exacting & Cool} has a highly attractive personality, yet he is not overly social. This creates a problem for him, although he has a great need to be in the limelight, he has a greater need to spend time alone.
Aaron {Witty & Charismatic} has ultra quick impulses and a fertile imagination, sometimes overly so. He's at the age where he is striving for independence and freedom of thought.
Davina, AKA" Dorian " {Truthful & Discerning} has a demanding personality and no one can match her attention to detail or her power of concentration on the task at hand. She is extremely discriminating, possibly to the point of being judgmental.
As of late I've tended to fluctuate widely in mood *pause* (this post already sounds like a feminine moment) ... being easygoing one moment and full of what can be described as kind of moral indignation. Both are limiting since one of them represents too little judgement and the other too much. They also constitute a duality that imposes worry. I think I'm gonna have a period now for sure
*Chanting* "realize that the truth is in the middle, seek it there" "realize that the truth is in the middle, seek it there" "realize that the truth is in the middle, seek it there"
Sometimes I may compensate for imagined but expected difficulties while overlooking more concrete problem areas. {Mr.TramueL's Corollary: An expert is a person who avoids the small errors while sweeping on to the grand fallacy.} This may produce a conservative, even fearful attitude, which "deads" initiative and keeps any relationship from success, becoming a self-fulfilling prophecy.
That's right in case you missed it I'm talking about relationships but not just romantic relationships, this has affected all of my relationships (Family, Friends, Co-Workers & She)
Do as I say, not as I do:
Try to accept the whole package
Self-fulfilling prophecies can ensure *deadness*
Complaining waste energy
Now I'm off to take a shower to get the floral, night blooming jasmine, peach cranberry body spray smell off of me
