Whenever someone hops into Reese Cup they comment on the smell. I don’t have the official stats but understand there aren’t a lot of folks in and out of her.
Pause.
I can count on two hands how many people have ridden in my car so I’ma say 10 outta 10 riders love the smell.
Read MoreHey younger Cleo,
This is you from 2022. You don’t know this yet, but you are in for an emotional rollercoaster. There will be times when you question yourself, God, life, family, and your career but you will make it through a tougher cookie. The road will not be easy and the scars will take years to heal. In the end, you will know that all good and bad things will come to an end. When you are my age, you will understand. When you turn 20, you will meet someone who will be by your side through all this fuck shit. I will not give much away regarding the relationship.
Just be patient.
Read MoreI’ve stopped giving advice (or providing an opinion) unless explicitly asked for it. I’ve held for the longest time the same position that most living souls don’t want you to problem solve, they want their choices validated.
Read MoreSunny’s Thoughts On Aging …
“Do not regret growing older. It is a privilege denied to many.”
~Author Unknown
I’m 28 years of age and I’m glad to have made it this far. So many friends I have lost early on, I’m privileged to see 28. I look forward to getting older… living past my 40’s is my goal as of right now.
My favorite birthday was last year; I spent it with close friends and family. Played cards and enjoyed the night. The age I felt most alive was 19, I had a baby girl who gave me a reason to keep things moving along. After facing death in the eye and making it this far I’m truly blessed.
My advice: Don’t trip over age; just remember those who you’ve lost that never got a chance to live to see that day in their lives.
S. Sarith
" Today's word is ANOTHER. You are successful but have you helped someone else up the ladder with you? Is there someone you could mentor? Find time to help another ... "
~Leslie Tramuel
WhatAreYouLQQkingAt
I’ve been extremely busy working full time, part time and trying to establish TramueL Consulting {Controlled Emotional Response} add the stress & shade from starting a new job {the full time position} but that’s not the point. All of that to say sorry I haven’t been commenting & providing my intelligently hedonistic thoughts all up on your page. I’ve even neglected my standard bi-weekly post.
… any who I felt compelled to share my observations because I’ve been receiving the same message delivered in different formats. I guess that means I should share …
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*Shout out to @Scrumptious1 if she ever reads this
Personal Conversation
{Paraphrased}
“I’m not looking” “I’m going to focus on me and mine” “Relationships are too complicated”
Observation
Why do we reinvent ourselves when a relationship begins? We buy new drawz, shave {for men beards, for women … never mind} fix our hair, hide relatives sometimes kids Chris Rock quote: “We send our representative” Men lie about resources, women lie about what they want. Science proves it. Class.
Why do we reinvent ourselves when a relationship ends? We eat better, start exercising, buying new things “in with the new, out with the old” right? Eat right. Feel good. Look great. New friend. Complacency. Repeat. The end.
Do As I Say Not As I Do
Do those things while you are in a relationship, encourage each other, support each other. Why won’t you be great together? Hold each other accountable … just a thought.
Mr. “it’s very late & I’ve been at work since 10 a.m. so ignore this weird post” TramueL
Super Mr.TramueL is back!
Don’t worry mere mortals … I use my powers for good not evil.
{{{Evil Voice Laugh}}} mwahahaha
Over the last three weeks there have been several missions that needed my impractical wisdumb so I dawned & sealed my protective mask, pulled up my tights, threw on my cape and flew in to save the day! Two friendgurlz situations immortalized in this post. No names were used (only pronouns) to protect the downtrodden.
Mission Improbable
Boy meets girl, boy & girl fall in love, boy & girl make plans to marry, boy & girl move in together … boy & girl now start to question a few things. They feel silly talking about “a few things” with others because they are so small in comparison with real sh*t men & women go through. But therein lies the problem, the small things can be such a HUGE drain emotionally. One wants kids the other doesn’t. One wants to buy a condo the other wants a house. One folds the towels in half the other in half, then in half again. Are you serious Mr.TramueL ... towels? Yes towels … Her: “My grandma taught me how to fold towels and that’s the way I’ve always done it.” Him: “Your grandma was wrong.” *Side note* When he woke up from “her” knockout blow he was asked did he know where he was, he replied “… at my mama’s house.”
If you are raised, grow up observing or taught to do things a certain way it becomes embedded in you, second nature and we tend not to challenge our thought process assuming that our outlook is shared by our significant other, especially after you’ve played with each other horizontally.
The learned behavior in men, whether taught or observed, is to be the head of the house and by that authority the woman should be submissive to his will. When that will is challenged he will seek other ways to gain what he perceives as control.
The “un”learned behavior in women, whether taught or observed, is that of independence and self reliance. When that independence is challenged or she is made to feel inferior she will tell everybody that will listen she will seek other ways to feel empowered.
“She” called to ask for help or rather needed confirmation that her point of view was correct. She believes that because she makes more money than her husband, she shouldn’t have to answer to him and that all decisions should run through her. “She” said everyone else responded with the “compromise” and “ya’ll should make decisions as a team” nonsense. Well I’m the referee and I’m throwing the flag … bullsh*t. Even on a team there is a coach that draws up the last play with instructions on how to win. Compromise, a concept of finding agreement through communication, through a mutual acceptance of terms, often involving variations from an original goal or desire … bullsh*t, someone always gets their way. What is the compromise between someone wanting children & someone not wanting children?
Someone has to lead; I don’t care who as long as its not about money, power or control. Have a conversation; connect emotion and intellect, look for thoughtfulness in love and be open to the other point of view.
Do As I Say Not As I Do
Don’t be afraid to take the lead. Direction is needed – you may have to supply it. Strengthen your will to avoid indecision.
The labor department reported 85,000 jobs were lost due to the economy in December. I also continue to see record high unemployment rates across the nation, the carve out of unemployed Negro males {'Negro' now a choice on census forms} is higher than any other demographic … Then I realized that I’m a statistic! I’ve heard elected officials and analyst refer to an acceptable level of unemployment. WTF? Really? An "acceptable" level of unemployment means that the government economist to whom it is acceptable still has a job.
May 2010 will make two years for me without a comparable full-time job. I’m employed in a part-time capacity by the very company that laid me off or rather I was rehired, yep after seven years I was treated just like anyone else, background check and the whole nine.
WANTED: A Boss
While I’ve done a fair job at best of maintaining … Did I ever tell ya’ll how much I like using ellipsis? It is time to get back to the business of handling business. I know you’ve either heard or seen this from me “there is no such thing as job security anymore and there are far better ways to make a living than selling yourself into indentured servitude.” But damn! The entrepreneurial spirit isn’t taking off like I thought it would. A brotha’ got big dreams, BIG dreams and it doesn’t involve being filthy rich a weakness for money does not imply power but rather doing something that I enjoy, providing a service that people want and need, strengthening the community, now add the fact that I would be able to support myself … BIG bucks no whammies! A definite plus.
To everyone finding their way in this madness remember there is nothing permanent except change.
Do As I Say Not As I Do
☛ Tend to what needs fixing … don’t leave it all up to fate. Make decisions and act on them decisively.
☛ Dig in your heels. Don’t depend on your talent or take success for granted, hard work is always needed.
Jaded cynical attitudes can be deadening.
I ran into an acquaintance from high-school a few days back. Notice I wrote “acquaintance” … notice I wrote “High-School”.
I’ve been away from high-school for a minute, to give you an idea how long that’s been, my transcript reads “Gender: Male Race: Negro”
{Stepping Away for a Minute}
In school I was reserved, not shy or an introvert but more selective about whom I gave the business to socialize with. I was an average athlete good at most but never excelled. My theory on the self-reliance and independence is associated with growing up in a house that was one of two houses on a block where the only other structure was a church. I believe you are a product of your environment and I am just like the house I grew up in self-sustained and independent.
{Now I’m Back}
Of Mr. Play Actor and others who seem to hold onto their “self-proclaimed” glory days and awareness that all the world is a stage, fully embracing the various opportunities for role-playing. People with low self-esteem are caught in powerful emotional beliefs about themselves. No I didn’t make the varsity basketball team; No I’m not still in a marching band; no I’m not still dating Halle Berry. Man that was years ago. However, Mr.TramueL™ see’s through your mask. These things are all said in an effort to BIG you up. The conversation never progresses past sh*t that we used to do and I keep getting pulled back to the future … Me: “Oh, that’s great man, the little dance group didn’t work out for you? That’s okay cause’ you’re the night manager at McDonald's now huh? That’s good, real good.” People with low self-esteem often look desperately for evidence that they're good. You don’t have to put others down to bring yourself up.
“Welcome to McDonalds may I take your order please?” Yes, I would like for you to have the rewards of self-knowledge.
Do As I Say Not As I Do
☛ Beware of competition and jealousies.
☛ Don’t hold on to your pain.
☛ Drop the mask.
Find out who you really are and accept this person. What else can you do? (Don't answer that, it was rhetorical)
Now you can build your relationships on a solid foundation.
... and they lived happily ever after. The End
I get myself into trouble sometimes because I use humor, sarcasm and witty snap backs usually to express some critical comment. My bio is true ...
"Sometimes nit-picky & critical, “secretly” feeling he handles matters better than others"
How ironic.
Do As I Say Not As I Do
Know When To Be Serious And When To Let Up
Don’t Let Teasing Get Out Of Hand
Beware Of Third-Party Rivalries
Act With Consideration To All
I played the love doctor again today, well rather this time I played a male nurse and just listened while I took the patient's blood pressure and checked their heart beat allowing two of my female friends {Definition: (Fe)male: Male with iron added, for greater strength, ductility, and magnetism} to wheel and parry about what somebody didn't do for them Blah, Blah, Blah ~
On the Married Couple
Whether consciously or unconsciously they've crafted a set of rules for themselves. If I were a fly on the wall, I would probably comment on why they ain't invite me to the reception notice a common theme in their relationship: Who will impose ideas and who will follow them? Though they generally get along well, and have a lot of respect for each other, no kids in the house so they probably have lots of sex they have different ideas as to what a relationship / marriage should be all about. Thus the focus here is the issue of what shared ideology will work for them.
Do as I say, not as I do:
✍ Learn to compromise without resentment, swallow your pride occasionally and work for the common cause.
On the Friend Guy Friend Girl Couple
Their focus is power, whether the challenge is to seize it, exercise it, or give it up. I've noticed a spiritual evolution process; first striving for and grasping power, then learning more about themselves and their relationship and finally letting go of power in favor of higher ends. They may have to acknowledge their social or personal power and live with it for a while before they can give it up. Ayo! social & personal power I'mma let you finish but the power of love is one of the greatest powers of all time! Along the way they may come to realize it and understand that it should not be given up but given away and shared with others freely.
Do as I say, not as I do:
✍ Don't get carried away by power, seek your own path, simple acts of kindness can be very strong.
Mr.TramueL is a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E enabler. ☛ Stay on your toes kids, L O V E
Two Fingers, One Word ~
(Me) Hey Mr.TramueL! How are you doing today?!
(Myself) No complaints, just maintaining.
(Me) True ... true. You sound a bit unnerved wanna talk about it?
(Myself) Thanks ... but I'm good
(Me) Okay cool but here is some advice:
"Do as I say not as I do"
Learn to temper your intensity. By understanding yourself better, you will be less at the mercy of your moods. Work on improving social relationships and continue to befriend others. Beware of any tendencies to close yourself off. Allow your warm and loving side full rein and keep your heart open.
My determination to always be at my best is typically magnified in most of my relationships granting me little rest. However when that phone call, e-mail or text message comes with those famous words "Hey, What you doing. Guess What?"
… I get all emotional (I'mma keep it short. I don't want another another feminine moment. I can't stand the smell of that night blooming jasmine.)
They picked me! They could have chosen anyone but they chose me! It feels good when I am able to impart my impractical wisdumb upon the earth.
Do as I say not as I do
Be aware of your effect on others.
Do not exhaust yourself in pursuit of the latest trend.
Seek traditional values.
*Remember a house can not be united with it's brothers, sisters, mamas, daddies, cousins, aunts, uncles, friends, boos, baby daddies, baby mamas, friend girls and friend guys divided. Now get out there and Unite!
Translate combat into competition. Your enemy may be a friend in disguise.Play by the rules ☚ Nope, Eff That!
Play to Win!
Have you really tried to understand?
No. Okay well why don't you try to mute dissent and turn arguments into conversations. ☚ Not a question ... this is advice.
Look outside your own world
We all get caught up secretly believing that our way is better than others, however,The Merciless God of Perfection doesn't want you to believe there are other ways of viewing things. ☚ Shout out to The One real GOD, his SON & their homeboy the HOLY GHOST cause' they are the only ones you should put your faith in.
Pay attention to the needs of others
Try to keep track of what's going on, be sensitive to telltale signs & don't take things for granted. Think constructively & work to improve relations.
Calm your nerves and center yourself
Don't stick stubbornly to your point of view, go ☠smoke or exercise or do that thing the we all like to do ☚ You scream, I scream, we all scream for ...
☠
It always amazes me how folk hide behind a facade of religion and faith, write one social comment praising God and the very next one raising hell. Before you judge anyone for what you perceive to be "A fall from Grace" ... turn the mirror around and ask yourself; Have I cultivated acceptance and understanding? Have I suspended judgments? Have I learned to compromise?
Show your woman how much you care, improve yourself by acting as this
list suggests. It's unfortunate that we're so insensitive that we
actually need a list like this. Do what it says and you'll be getting
head in the whip in no time!!!!
1. When she asks how she looks, shrug and say "could be better." This
will keep her on her toes, and women love that.
2. Never hold her hand. This can be interpreted as a sign of
weakness. If she grabs your hand, squeeze hers really, really hard
until she cries. This will impress her by showing her what a strong
man you are.
3. Once a month sneak up on her from behind and knock her over. Women
are like dogs. They love to be roughed up.
4. Call her in the middle of the night to ask if she's sleeping. If
she is, say "you'd better be." Repeat this 4 or 5 times until
morning. This will show her you care.
5. When she is upset about something, suggest to her that it might be
her fault. This will pave the way for her own personal improvement,
and every girl needs some improvement.
6. Recognize the small things; they usually mean the most. Then when
she's sleeping, steal all her small things and break them. Because
jewelry is for wussies and Asian ladies.
7. If you're talking to another girl, make sure she's looking. When
she is, stare into her eyes, mouth the words 'fu*k you,' and grab the
other girl's ass. Women love competition.
8. Tell her you're taking her out to dinner. Drive for miles so she
thinks it's going to be really special. Then take her to a burning
tire yard. When she starts to get upset tell her you were just
kidding and now you're really going to take her to dinner. Then drive
her home. When she starts crying and asks why you would do something
like that lean over and whisper very quietly into her ear "...because
I can."
9. Introduce her to your friends as "some chick". Women love those
special nicknames.
10. Play with her hair. Play with it HARD. (especially immediately
after leaving the hair salon)
11. Warm her up when she's cold... but not by giving her your jacket,
because then you might get cold. Rather, look her in the eye and
say, "If you don't stop bitching about the cold right now, you're
going to be bitching about a black eye." The best way to get warm is
with fear.
12. Take her to a party. When you get there she'll have to go to the
bathroom (they always do). Leave immediately. Come back right when
the party's dying and yell at her the whole way home for ditching you
at the party.
13. Make her laugh. A good way to do this is if she has a small pet.
Kick the pet. I always find stuff like that funny. Why shouldn't
women?
14. Let her fall asleep in your arms. When she's fast asleep, wait 10
minutes then JUMP UP AND SCREAM IN HER EAR! Repeat until she goes
home and you can use your arms for more important things. Like
basketball, football, holding the remote and beer.
15. Spit often. I hear women like guys that spit.
16. If you care about her, never ever tell her. This will only give
her self confidence. Then you can never turn her into the object she
deep down desires to be.
17. Every time you're in her house steal one of the following: shoes,
earrings, or anything else that comes in pairs. Only take one of the
pair. This way she'll go crazy over you.
18. Take her out to dinner. Right when she's about to order interrupt
and say "No, she's not hungry". Make her watch you eat. Women love a
guy that speaks for her.
19. Look her in the eyes and smile. Then clock her one. Women love a
spontaneous guy.
20. Give her one of your t-shirts... and make sure it has your smell
on it. But not a sexy cologne smell. A bad smell. You know what I'm
talking about.
21. If you're listening to music, and she asks to hear it, tell her
no. This way she'll think you're mysterious.
22. Remember her birthday, but don't get her anything. Teach her
material objects aren't important. The only thing that's important is
that she keeps you happy. And your happiness is the greatest present
she can ever get.
23. When she gives you a present on your birthday, Christmas, or just
whenever, take it and tell her you love it. Then next time you know
she's coming over on a trash day leave the trash can open and have
the present visibly sticking out of the can. Girls actually don't
like this one that much, but I think it's funny.
24. If she's mad at you for not calling her when you say you will,
promise her that you will call her at a certain time of the day. This
will ensure that she waits by the phone. Tell her when you call
you're going to tell her a special surprise. Now she'll be really
excited. Now don't call. That's also quite funny!
