Facebook Five
/Connection crabbing. They can’t get to you so they attach themselves to mutual friends, thumbing every picture, status update, check-in and comment just to let you know they are there.
Read MoreSlight Work
/The following names have been changed to protect the innocent. Any likeness to you is coincidental. Maybe you have a doppelgänger. A discussion concerning food while at work sparked a spin off conversation while attempting to plan a pot-luck for the team.
Read MoreMy Point of View
/Last week I tweeted "Y'all still use Blackberry or nah?" in response to an advertisement for Blackberry Ten. Truly, I wasn't throwing shade ... I'm too Summer. A non follower and I exchanged a few pleasantries after which I explained I wasn't trying to clown her Blackberry usage. It reminded me of a tweetversation two years ago with a friend on Twitter, this is someone whom I know personally not just an avatar from a digital list.
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Compassion of Others
/When I tweet it's never to spark conversation, most of the time it's just me talking. I do however enjoy the conversations sparked from platonic, non-flirtatious quips that evolve to observations of feelings or thoughts.
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The Point of Social Media is to be Social but ...
/FIve things I wish you wouldn't do with social media ...
I’m fond of a lot of things & while I love to discuss music, technology, food, or photography they are hard to discuss intelligently at times. I understand that there is always dissent which makes for great debate. However, if I say I prefer thighs over breast there is no need for someone to say to me that the merciless god of perfection hand selects each breast. I value your point of view but not when it comes from a place of authority.
Read MoreThe Hunt. The End
/This week featured conversations with three friends, although their stories were unrelated they shared similar themes. A hunt for and the end of; relationships, friendships, and connections.
Read MoreExposed Vs Sheltered
/I always feel like I need to explain the infrequency of my post. It usually has to do with the fact that I take in much from my environment, searching for some hidden truth or meaning. Swinging between irrational and rational thoughts and feelings [my crazy], normally this takes place in my mind but those close to me may witness it from time to time. The monotony of my life doesn’t provide many truth seeking moments and the tedious repetition of work, work, hustle & home leaves me uninspired at times.
Read MoreTruth Is.
/Want Love? Don’t date This is the title of a not so recent post on The Good Men Project. It resonated with me because it provided some insight to my own thoughts. At times I find myself over thinking the dating game but one thing is certain, it is a game.
Read MoreThree Sides to Every Story
/Three stories indirectly related, one common theme.
Read MoreLife & Music. Telephone Tracks.
/Telephone Tracks (1991) It's the summertime & I Am sitting on the front porch as “cars ride by with the booming system” I remember the heavy bass & structure of the song(s) of this album. The Suzuki Samurai would take its place in a line of automobiles that set trends every summer & everyone followed. You could hear & feel the kick from the sub woofers two or three blocks away, the “riddim” was one that I never grew tired of.
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Life & Music. In Effect Mode
/Nite & day represents time. There are twenty-four hours in this cycle, time is our most valuable asset. We can work & earn mo’ money. We can find a new person to love & as the song’s lyrics suggest, proclaim said love nite & day. Currently folks feel entitled to my time and my love. Don’t do that, I dislike personal entitlement.
Read More10 Things You Don't Deserve Applause For
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It’s heavy in these social streets.
To use or not to use social media
Build it and they will come. Use it to benefit you or use it for fun. Or, don’t use it at all. Your point of view means nothing to others. I’m not dope or vapid because I use it and you’re not profound or about that slow life if you don’t.
No applause.
Read MoreMad Women.
/The series explores the true human nature beneath the façade of 1960s traditional family values. Initially I believed the women in the show presented a quiet strength, one that allowed them to be vocal, one that provided them an innate power over the men in their lives.
Read MoreDiscovery Place
/Discovery Place, Inc. is a private 501©(3) not-for-profit education organization dedicated to inspiring exploration of the natural and social world through extraordinary exhibits and educational programs that inform, challenge and engage audiences of all ages. Discovery Place, Inc. operates Discovery Place, Charlotte Nature Museum and Discovery Place KIDS.
Read MoreCLT to EWR
/Initially I sat down to chronicle the sights and sounds of my recent excursion to En Why Cee, however as I started to write the random thoughts, observations and inspiration; direct and indirect that developed from the experience took over …
Read MoreSPERM DONOR
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I had a visit with my old roommate; she was holding some mail for me at her place. Yes, I said she. I know you are wondering "Did Mr.TramueL smash?" well kids the answer is no, now stay focused & keep your minds out of the gutter. Although once or twice she did show up at my door butt naked talking bout' how she was so alone. We made small talk about the weather, the bank (we use to work together), my kids, the holidays, her family and then her "sperm donor." In a rather nonchalant way she proceeds to tell me that her biological father had passed. Given what I knew about their relationship the smirk on her face confused me, well maybe not. I mean we lived together for a little over a year so I thought I had her diagnosed as bipolar figured out, so her whole demeanor perplexed me. Being the intelligently hedonistic person that I am, I decided to probe a little further and ask how she really felt. She found out on Christmas day, an Aunt called her mom to let the family know. We got through my investigation without coming to blows, which is surprising, cause' at one point I was standing over her with the spotlight shining directly at her soul wanting her to break down and cry for this man who cared so little about her life. I went hard! *Pause. End Scene*
I sit down on the couch, she didn't break. I thought she was using the smirk as some type of inner defense mechanism to block her true pain, but I don't believe she felt any kinda way. Why was I so obsessed? Unlike her my "sperm donor" {Those are her choice words} I like to refer to him as "the punk ass mofo who impregnated my mother and didn't give a flying eff about anyone but himself selfish ass bastard" but that's too long so we will use "sperm donor" … *Clears Throat* Unlike her if I passed my sperm donor on the street I wouldn't know it was him, unlike her I don't know if I have any brothers or sisters fathered by him, unlike her I never knew where he lived. Unlike her I never had an opportunity to converse {Is conversate a word?} with him.
Women whom I've been involved with seem to think that this missing piece of my life is somehow hindering or holding me back from really committing to someone {That's a whole notha' post} and I often wonder if I use some type of inner defense mechanism to make me believe that I don't care. Like her I really don't care, if someone told me he passed I wouldn't feel anything. My mother married when I was five, I have a wonderful step-father that has been and is still a positive influence in my life. So we stole we didn't get stole on.
I could go on but …
Do As I Say Not As I Do
✍ Be more realistic about yourself.
✍ Beware of negative expectations.
✍ Slowly build a solid base of self-confidence.
✍ Accept your fate.