The cold finds its way to the glass, pressing itself against the warmth inside. The couch cradles me, its fabric soft and unassuming, while my book rests against my chest—words both heavy and light. A lemon candle flickers, casting soft citrus notes into the air, sharp and sweet like a whispered memory.
Read MoreI’ve often told myself that “you are not responsible for someone else’s feelings, only for how you advise them of your disinterest.” It’s a principle rooted in fairness and boundaries—a way to navigate relationships without leading anyone on or offering false promises. And in theory, it’s a reasonable and honest approach. But in practice, it feels much messier…
Read MoreThe line between autonomy and external influence is often blurred, making the conversation about aesthetics far more complex than it first appears…
Read MoreAs I scroll through Threads, I’m intentional about what I interact with- liking posts that resonate with me without any expectation of a like or comment in return. I’m equally purposeful with my comments, avoiding engagement-bait questions or interactions with people who don’t seem genuinely interested in dialogue. More often than not, I use journaling or my blog to work through my thoughts in depth…
Read MoreSocial media often reduces us to curated moments, leading to misunderstandings about our values and interests. True connection comes from understanding the underlying reasons behind our choices, not just from surface-level observations. In a world full of noise, feeling truly understood is more meaningful than just being seen…
Read MoreWell actually, the Virgo will overanalyze, and then conversations become layered with unspoken truths, societal systems reveal their flaws, and the little quirks of human behavior that once seemed charming now feel like rehearsed performances. It’s not that others are shallow, my point of view has 20/5 vision, and I can’t unsee what I’ve seen…
Read MoreThe two of you reading this know me well enough to understand that I’m not becoming an actual villain. I’m not abandoning my decency or planning to treat others poorly. What this means is that I’m done prioritizing the feelings, boundaries, and needs of others at the expense of my own…
Read MoreWhen I began to prioritize my health, all of the healths: emotional, social, spiritual, environmental, financial, occupational, intellectual, and my favorite sexual... I noticed that some people started to fill in the blanks with their ass umptions and narratives. & by some people, I mean women, some would "Lol, I'm just serious" me to death, referring to my structured lifestyle as having a team, suggesting I'm juggling multiple situationships. The reality? I'm just at home, focused on my goals, in bed by 8 in the PMs…
Read MoreA fleeting moment of doubt and longing captured in seventeen syllables…
Read MoreEvery time I see a “solo date” post on social media, I feel a bit… well, conflicted, like seeing a cat dressed as a pirate. I mean, it’s cute, but is it necessary? I’ve always believed people should use social media however they like. If something resonates, I’ll engage; if not, I just scroll past. But these solo date posts started to bug me, and I had to wonder why…
Read MoreI don’t enjoy conversations about love. “It’s not because it’s an emotion… an abstraction that is hard to quantify and define.” It’s not because I tend to have more of a logical locus of control than an emotional one. It's because social media has profoundly influenced how men and women perceive and engage with each other, shifting the narrative from emotional connection to transactional expectations. Instead of love as mutual understanding and growth, we now often see a narrow focus on what men can materially provide and what women refuse to compromise on—
Read More“Peeling away, yet I’m compelled to stay, cherishing you from a place between drawing blood & the gentlest touch.” - Hangnail
Hanging on by a thread…
I've been active on Threads and I'm enjoying it so far. However, I haven't fully figured out how the algorithm works. It shows me a lot of content from local users in Charlotte, with many threads about food, traffic, dating, fitness, and life in Uptown.
Read MoreBrian? How are you able to detach, stay neutral, spend so much time alone, travel alone, eat alone, be quiet, sit still, stay optimistic, and still be so handsome?
Don’t answer, it’s rhetorical…
Read MoreMy interest in [redacted] isn't about wanting her, but about why she's not falling for me like others usually do.
The self-proclaimed social media experts, "Hmm... since you got your degree, and you know every fucking thing," would label me a narcissist. But honestly, it’s more of an ego thing than full-on narcissism.
Read MoreLately, I’ve been contemplating a move to Houston, TX, or possibly back to Atlanta, GA. The possibility has me reflecting on how moving can be a profound act of self-love. It’s more than just changing addresses; it’s about consciously prioritizing your well-being over comfort or the expectations of others.
Read MoreMy last few posts have been about dating, relationships, and the emotional polemics of love. I’m off that. I had to put it out into the ether, and now I’m back to our regularly scheduled programming…
Random Observation #8,987,675
Chaos
Read More291 → 258 → 225: Charting My Transformation
32.1 Pounds Down in 96 Days
On June 29th, 2024, I stood on the scale during a doctor’s visit, weighing 291 pounds. Fast forward to September 26th, and I’m now at 258 pounds— 32.1 pounds lighter in just 96 days. My goal? To reach 225 pounds by the first quarter of 2025, and I’m well on track to hit, also make weight ;) I anticipate being 243 pounds by December 31st.
Read MoreAfter my divorce, I quickly learned that dating in these un-united of states is different. Our attachment to technology has escalated the disconnection, reducing genuine connections to swipes, likes, and fleeting messages. This experience has transformed my view of relationships.
Read MoreWhat Else Are Women For?
“The world still wants to ask that a woman primarily be pretty and if she is not, the mob pouts and asks querulously, 'What else are women for?”
― W.E.B. Du Bois
Read MoreDeath and Loss: The Weight of Remembrance
The two-year remembrance of my mother brings the weight of grief back into sharp focus, but this time it feels layered with the pain of others around me. Witnessing my co-worker and close friend endure their own losses has deepened my reflections on death. Their grief reminds me of the universality of sorrow, yet each person’s experience is so uniquely personal. As I support them, I find my own grief taking on new dimensions, teaching me not just about the fragility of life but also the importance of remembrance as a way to honor both the loss and the lessons left behind by those we loved.
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