October Observation #13 & #14

October Observation #13 & #14

Literal Integration

My observations are born from conversations with people I interact with at work, at home, at the coffee shop, on a run, in transit —Life. Most of them could be fleshed out into whole ass essays but ain't nobody got time for that.

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Michelle and I visited with our great couple friends and soon to be neighbors in Harrisburg. The two observations below materialized from breaking bread, and drinking drank with them.

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October Observation #12

October Observation #12

Serendipitous Occurrences

This shall be known as the summer of thunderstorms. This morning on my drive to work I watched a young man offer a young woman his umbrella in passing, I don’t know what words were exchanged but it must have been fly, as I glanced back through the rearview mirror; both moved in the direction originally traveled by the young woman, both smiling uncontrollably, both moving through the rain with enthusiasm and a positive outlook.

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October Observation #11

October Observation #11

Five Things I Learned From Being a Kid

Be More Childlike and Less Childish

Young children are often impulsive, pouty, and with frequent outbursts of anger. If you don't have kids, listen to me know and believe me later. Behaviorally, they are prone to lying, blame others to avoid responsibility, are predisposed to bullying, and often need to be the center of attention.

Adults are playful, creative, unselfish, and teachable.

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October Observation #10

October Observation #10

People Who Don't Hear Me

In social settings, I Am generally reserved and feel most comfortable one on one or one on two. Most of us like the energy in the room; loud music, laughter, or sports broadcasted across large screens -- These are all nice but in order for me to enjoy myself, I have to charge up my energy to participate. I do enjoy the connection with people I'm speaking to, but the energy in the room takes a lot out of me and I need at least two-three days to recover.

Lol, I'm just serious.

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October Observation #8

October Observation #8

Music

Although I Am a consumer of music, I Am also creating. Creating memories on my morning run, while working out, on my walk to/and on the bus, or while I'm working. While we are watching movies, watching our favorite shows or breaking bread — the music we hear has the power to fuel us continually at levels more than just words.

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October Observation #6

October Observation #6

To Me Language

I take stock in what is off putting for me when conversing with others. Having that awareness keeps me honest about what and how I communicate. Excluding family, close friends, and living souls I Am comfortable around, those people whom I consider family but ain’t blood  — because we are who we are around them.

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October Observation #4

October Observation #4

Society Socks

During the week the toughest decision I face in the morning is what socks to wear.

I wake up without an alarm clock, meditate, drink water, take my vitamins and head to the YMCA without missing a beat. Returning home to fix a protein shake, pack lunch, shower and get dressed.

While I have managed to fit all of the above in a two-hour window the thing that throws me off of schedule is deciding on socks.

Lol, I'm just serious.

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October Observation #2

October Observation #2

First Choice

What started as a joke with a my homie worker friend last week ended up as a vow to create a poll to see if women and men are with their first choice or if they've settled.

It started with random observations about nothing, yet everything concerning a few odd couple pairings, note I am using too me language -- The couples are in different stages of their relationships although most are planning weddings, recently married or have been dating for a long time.

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Market of Discount Dreams

Market of Discount Dreams

The other day while having a discussion about Cash Rules Everything Around Me, CREAM get the money, dollar, dollar bill Y'all. It led to a familiar discussion that I’ve been having with greater than enough frequency lately, living souls being obsessed with making the greatest amount of money with the least possible effort.

I like money, but I’ve learned it cannot make you happy. In the words of the prolific rhymer Christopher George Latore Wallace, Mo Money Mo Problems. Also, I would sign up for a test to see if $500MM would indeed make me happy – it is a delicate duality to balance.

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Don't Fall in Love, Fly in Love

Don't Fall in Love, Fly in Love

Someone asked me "why did you get married?" and I answered with quick wit and a somewhat comical reply. A typical defense when someone asks you a question you're not sure how or simply unprepared to answer. 

"Michelle keeps food in the house and the utilities on." "Also, she is fine as fuck."

Them: "Seriously, and don't say for love."

The question was fielded by someone whom I share a lot with, there are often deep conversations where we opine about life and all of its ironic twist.

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