Someone asked me the other day if I were happy. In context I understand why. In a social media world of happiness theater, competition on happiness and not real happiness, but who could display it best online. I believe they genuinely wanted to know. especially seeing the changes in my life in real time over the past two years.
“Saying you are happy isn’t the same as being happy”
Read MoreAn article published on Psychology Today was repeatedly shared (by women) across all of my social media and I read it with (dis) interest, if pick me was a person it would be the author of this post.
“Falling in love” implies a descension, also a bit of risk, too. When we fall it is generally associated with something negative happening to us. I tripped and fell inside of a woman I just met and now she is carrying my baby. Bad meaning bad, not bad meaning good. In the curious case of falling in love however, we tend to glamorize and adore the fall.
Read MoreI have been trying to write this for a week and a half with no real understanding of what I’m trying to say – There have been four deaths announced to me during that time; co-workers, family of close friends, and classmates.
Mastering fear & anxiety, I’ve learned how to respond to news of death by being open, honest and sincere.
Read MoreI've had so many conversations with my single, dating and married friends about relationships that if I had a dollar for each one…
Y’all know the rest.
Read MoreRelationships coming to an end has been a BIG theme in my circles this week, and by relationships I’m referring to an emotional connection between living souls - not exclusive to a four letter word beginning with L and ending in E. I had a friendship end as recently as a month ago. I didn’t argue, I didn’t ponder, I moved on as I’m sure they have.
Read MoreI needed a quick reset with happenings’ in all of my relationship categories, in no order; love, marriage, family, friendship, and work. So I booked a lil’ trip to Asheboro, NC or whatever.
Read MoreMusic is my drug of choice & I’ve been getting high with Justin Drew Bieber; personal reflection, love, transformation, social commentary and nostalgia.
Life set to Freedom (EP), Justin Drew Bieber
Read MoreGrief is an intense emotion. It encompasses all the different pain and sorrow we feel after a personal loss.
Maestro was diagnosed with an irreversible cancer and a decision was made to euthanize, he was a wonderful non-human member for the family.
One common Virgo trait is the tendency to be introspective, additionally for me with Moon in Gemini, Moon square Mercury specifically (Science) … there is always a conflict between my head and my heart. My emotions telling me one thing and my mind telling me something else. The result is a see-saw effect: Emotional to the point of irrationality at one moment, and logical the next.
Read MoreWith deep changes in two of my relationship categories; marriage and family (parent-child) I’ve been in my feelings about what it takes to have loving relationships. We can learn a lot from self-observation and while I did not find the keys to success, I do understand relationships can be ‘third entities.” Entities that can lead an existence independent of the will or desire of its partners or one that can prove far stronger than either individual.
Perhaps the prolific Dominican and African-American poet John David Jackson said it best…
Read MoreI’m learning (& practicing) not becoming upset when some- thing/one irritates me. It is not easy to find peace when you are irritated or angered. One glaring example for me is becoming agitated while driving— happens to all of us I’m sure, a part of the human experience. I offset this by allowing myself plenty of time to get wherever I’m going, this has created a habit in me to always be on time. Unfortunately it created another opportunity for me; becoming irritated when others are late.
Lol, I’m just serious.
Read MoreI had a signal reaction to hearing (for a third time) someone say that they believed they were not good enough for me.
When you taste a slice of pizza, you “know” it at a direct sensory level. You talk about how much you enjoy the taste of it and the way it feels in your mouf’, you try to describe it to someone else, even write a love song about it, but you will never be able to effectively communicate the quintessence of the sensory in words. Another person who has tasted The P can share your sense of enthusiasm, but he or she will never know YOUR experience of it. Others can describe their experience of The P, but YOU’LL never know as they knew it.
Read MoreI turned 50 on September 21st, to make it memorable I took a solo excursion to Philadelphia. There are advantages to traveling alone, for me it solidifies what I believe about myself; I enjoy myself when no one else is around, I Am self-reliant, and adaptable. Additionally, the opportunity for self reflection is valuable. Without a travel partner, I can create and store my own sense of meaning from each trip. Self-reflection can be painful at times, but also fulfilling. Time alone while traveling presents an opportunity and a gift to take a careful look at yourself, your life, and your experiences.
Read MoreThere was a central theme in September for all five relationship categories; love, marriage, friendship, family, work.
Read MoreBut I, like most of you, Am tired.
Tired of cooking.
Tired of eating.
In an article published in The American Scholar, Eric Fridman wrote, "The success of a barbershop is more than a testimony to the skills and courtesies of its owner. It also bears witness to the barbershop's importance as a ritual place where the private and public concerns of men conjoin to create an experience of psychological comfort, social significance, and simple masculine pleasure."
Read MoreWe do not exist in
Any other instant
Here in this dimension
You and I are meant to be
I have waited lifetimes to find you
Now that you're here
I can remind you
Of the things you've been dreamin'
Times two
I promise you
If you just give me 24
Man, all I need is 24 hours
Today’s Challenge
Write down a list of what you’re grateful for this year, and take a moment to feel lucky for what you have…
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