Subliminal Tweet(s), Insider(s) Status Updates

Mr.TramueL’s observation of #SubTweet and {Insiders} Facebook status updates.

I’ve learned and there will be no more social-media beef (recall) for me, whilst I was alone in my room stirring at the wall, in the back of my mind I heard my conscious call … it was about firing subliminal shots on Twitter and Facebook, at least that is what the folk tweeting and updating their status would like to believe.

Subliminal defined:

1. Below the threshold of conscious perception. Used of stimuli.

2. (Psychology) (of stimuli) less than the minimum intensity or duration required to elicit a response

They said: “Mr.TramueL what does the meaning really mean?” I said: “I know right?” “Webster be tripp’n, on some next level subliminal definitions” … it means that the messages are presented in a way that their chance of perception is less than fifty percent.

This is an impromptu post for two reasons (1) Yvette called at 1:20 a.m. to catch up and also to ask if my previous post was in reference to her. I responded “I would never write about someone I thought would ever read it.” Blank Stare. Wink.Wink. *Girl you know it wasn’t about you!* (2) I was going to tweet {because now I’m wide awake & she is now sleep, five minutes later no doubt} a covert tweet that only I & Yvette would know what it meant how hilarious I am, but Yvette isn’t on Twitter and would never see it.

The point.

Of shots fired

You’re so vain, certainly it isn’t always about you – except for the times it is. And those times, both you and the party who sent it knows it is, or you are the party who sent it and knows the person you are referring to knows what your intent is. So it’s not really subliminal but more covert “not openly defined”

Covert tweets & updates make for good jokes to strangers, may garner you twenty thumbs on Facebook, may even be a way for you to get a few things off your chest but it can also hurt the folk you care most about. Social media can be an outlet for you to be your best or a mask for you to be your worse. Drop the mask.

Radiant Silence,

Mr. “I was going to finish one of the twenty post in my draft folder, but got so tickled with myself at 1:30 a.m. that I pen(ed) this instead” TramueL

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Quality of Life

"For the sake of making a living we forget to live"

Working soo much I keep missing the most important calls in the world.

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TOP TEN WAYS TO KILL THE “N-WORD” ONCE AND FOR ALL……..

          

  Written & Illustrated By Lena Hopkins-Jackson

* DISCLAIMER: This one will not be in "Rolling Out" magazine.com this week. It's a tad too racy I guess ( pun intended). Either way

I'm sharing it and though I created this in the spirit of humor, there's truth in jest sooooooooooo here are the.....

TOP TEN WAYS TO KILL THE “N-WORD” ONCE AND FOR ALL……..

          10. Terminate it…..( James Cameron style )

       Create a cyborg-terminator from "SKYNET" (..um,The Black-operated division)

to travel back several hundred years into the past and ‘eliminate’ the dumb-@ss, non-pronouncing slave trader strolling along the river NIGER who started this mess in the 1st d@mn place!

9. Send it out to Crystal Lake and let Jason have at it……….

 We can all agree that the “N-Word” is the ‘Asian-hair supply store’ of racial epithets: It’s EVERYWHERE and much like Jason, just won’t die! So who better than “Mister-crazy-hockey-mask-killer”  himself  to do away with it once and for all….Jason can stab it, axe it, burn it alive.. Whatever, just KILL IT so it will never come back! ...and while we’re it, let’s throw “Keeping It Real” under the bus too, that phrase NEEDS to die...seriously.

8. Create a “It’s-Okay-To-Say-N@gger”  Day……

 For an ENTIRE 24 hours Caucasions can get this word they’re just ITCHING to say out of their systems for good….AND Black people are NOT allowed to ‘retaliate’ at all! (Yup, those are the  rules!) From normally, mild-mannered corporate bankers to Fox-News staff, White folks will be drunk with euphoria and screaming it to the top of their lungs… um, that is until midnight and after that it’s every Biff and Buffy to fend for themselves ( God help 'em’) I’m guessing Black folks will be so tired of hearing it , this will finally do the trick…..except in  perhaps Compton, where the N-Word and jherri curls flow more fluently than water….still.

7. Hire Justin Beiber and Hannah-Montana to sing a duet about it…..

   Dude....Ya’ just gotta’ love that Beiber Kid and Miley  Cyrus is the new Britney, minus the side-order of crazy!

So here’s my modest proposal: we have these two little," white-bread wonders"create a chart-topping song about “The N-Word” to be played ‘ad nauseum’ on every radio station and in between every commercial on Nickelodeon! Eventually every kid in America will be so SICK of hearing it there will be an anti-N-word backlash so huge, that  no one will be caught dead saying it for fear of appearing ‘un-cool’.

6. Create an episode of “The Boondocks” about it.

Here’s something ground-breaking: Characters gratuitously call each other the “N-word” in hopes of showing Black people how truly self-loathsome and….WAIT, hold-up...( *pauses to read memo*)…my bad, that idea has actually INCREASED the acceptance of the word….uh, never mind….. NEXT!

5. Film a new, Spike Lee joint : “Mo-Bettah’ Uses For You-sez' Than The “N-Word’….....Fever”

   In Spike’s well-loved & unique style;actors would speak directly into the camera about how wack the “N-Word” is, followed by typical ‘Spike-isms’ such as pulling actors on that weird, slow-moving crane and dream-sequences with the ‘art-house’ camera angles of how THEY would handle Black folks too “Bamboozled” to stop using the word … one of which would be to give them a ‘hundred headaches’.. ya’ d@mn skippy! *Sound track by Public Enemy (minus “Flava-Flave” for obvious reasons)

4. Have Oprah do a show about it:

Special guests could include: Mel Gibson, Dr. Laura Schlesinger, Michael Richards and surviving members of the third Reich discussing why the term means so much to them. Dr. Oz can even come on and explain why the “N-word” is sooooo unhealthy for our bodies to use, then Dr. Phil can come scream at all of them about how their racist reputations are killing their careers and “How’s that working for ya’?” followed by Oprah herself banning the word forever…or else! (And we don’t want to find out what “or else” means, do we now...Arsenio?)

3.  Ask Beyonce` to do a public service announcement campaign against it on all the major networks and cable channels………

 It’ll be like a televised game of “Simon-Says” but with much higher stakes! Everybody knows Beyonce`and her magical, mechanical hand can do ANYTHING and if she’ll throw in a half-nekkid performance of her “Uh-Ohh--Uh-Ohh” dance while condemning the word….I think she’ll have the nation’s  FULL attention…..okay, at least half the nation anyway.

2. Have President Obama tax it :

 Put a $100 fine on anyone saying the word in public from here on out and we could probably pay off the national debt by “New Years Eve” ( by Christmas if someone can bug the central offices of Glenn Beck and Sarah Palin )

..and the number one way to ‘KILL’ the “N-word” once and for all is to ( drum roll please)…..

1. Just stop saying it and take the power out of it…seriously.

 It’s a bastard word that’s been embraced for far too long: ignorantly created by some racist Whites to keep our ancestors in check,...THEN twisted around and re-claimed by Blacks for survival so they could endure the pain inflicted by it ( Among other atrocities) to rob us of our humanity! Now it’s the big, BLACK elephant in the room that everyone’s too scared to shoot and take out of it's misery. Even though it’s never cool for Whites to use it…Black folks NEED to stop saying it as well. Sure, it won’t happen overnight but if Blacks survived the middle passage, killing one stupid word can be done………um, can’t it?

....your thoughts please.

LHJ.

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THE WEEK OF EXCUSES, TRANSITION & SUPERSTITIONS

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Loyalty to ideas. Three days late, however in keeping with my promise to post every Sunday, here are my random observations about the previous week.

Of Excuses

We all have that special acquaintance that complains about everything & yet nothing. You offer your intelligently hedonistic solution and they respond with “No, it’s not that” and provide every excuse why it won’t work, can’t work except for the obvious … they are crazy.

I needed help moving a few large pieces out of storage. The move would have only required an hour with most of that time spent driving from Public Storage to the new spot. I had a full month to move everything, which I was able to do with the exception of the larger pieces. I asked a few people that owned trucks to help me out but was met with excuse, after excuse, weekend after weekend.

Mr.TramueL’s Observation of Excuses: (1) If someone says he will do something "without fail," he won't. (2) Everybody lies, but it doesn't matter, because nobody listens.

Of Transition

Transition into the new space, I always feel at home with books, candles, plants & pictures. My favorite things. I’m able to rest because my space is filled with the things I love, but I haven’t slept well while adjusting if that even makes any sense.

My employer informed me that effective 12/31/2010 our line of business would transition to a completely different role & I was given the opportunity told that I have to decide by September 10, 2010 to state that I was “all in” or it would be considered a voluntary resignation.

Transition whether good or bad carries anxiety and nervous energy that cause you to set high expectations. While loyalty is admirable, sometimes you have to listen to me now & believe me later … Mr.TramueL’s Axiom: Variables won't, constants aren't. Leave.

In case you missed the point, this applies to both personal & business.

Of Superstition

Completely random but I was curious.

New neighbors ended up helping me move my things into my space. They would not enter, they would slide the pieces through the door and ask if I was okay. {Insert sincere appreciation followed by a sarcastic remark} I tried to research it but couldn’t find anything {maybe ‘cause it’s two thirty four in the a.m.}

“Never take a broom along when you move. Throw it out and buy a new one.” Couldn’t find an origin, needless to say I didn’t want to risk whatever consequences so I obliged.

Mr. “all or not at all” TramueL

Likes & (Dis)Likes ... In The Same Breath

Depending on someone.

I’m usually reserved when it comes to asking others for help. I don’t know why … the subject is probably the discussion for another post, so when I do ask it’s usually because I really need it. The problem for me looking for someone to “carry” me is that I always get dropped.

I like the fact that I have only a few that I can depend on, I dislike the fact that it’s only a few.

Talking to someone.

Here comes the introvert again. I really am energized by spending time with Mr.TramueL but there are times when I need /want conversation, no thank you to the celebrity gossip and no I don’t want Einstein’s theory of relativity. I appreciate a happy median. I know it’s time for me to find an outlet when my mama tells me after 15 minutes that she really has to go. I’m the DJ, they’re the rappers, they do all of the talking while I listen and produce the track. Always the DJ never the rapper.

I like that I have friends that can hold a conversation, I dislike that I have friends that can hold a conversation.

Listening to someone.

I don’t know what it is about me that make folk wanna open up and tell me all of their private times & the whole nine. In line at the grocery store, at the gas station, walking up the street  … I am a magnet. Muted but direct, give up conversation but don’t say nothing.

I like the fact that I’m able to impart my impractical wisdumb, I dislike the fact that it’s with total strangers.

Watching Good Times.

My schedule allows me to watch a little television in the mornings, rather than start the day with the news (depressing) or sports I choose to watch sitcoms or a network series. Good Times were anything but. 1ne episode in general has JJ looking to "wife" a teenage girl that was totally PG, not in a movie but like Mary was with Jesus. I would have like them to talk about protected sex and choices (adoption) rather than abortion right off the bat. There were a few other random TramueLism's that I observed, but that's all that I will write. The end.

I like the messages that the writers execute on the show, I dislike the messages that the writers execute on the show.

Working for someone.

I’m happy to be (RE)gainfully employed however there are far better ways to make a living than indentured servitude.

I like the fact that I am able to exist. I dislike the fact that I am only able to exist.

Mr. “ Amicability and Animosity” TramueL

Double Entendre, Ask HIM how ...

As I listened to Musiq {another entendre} I thought how perfect for a Sunday afternoon. Faith in the Lord & faith in love.

“Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”

Verse 1:
Love
So many things I've got to tell you
But I'm afraid I don't know how
Cause there's a possibility that
You'll look at me differently
Love
Ever since the first moment I spoke your name
From then on I knew that by you being in my life
Things were destined to change cause......

Chorus:
Love
So many people use your name in vain
Love
Those who have faith in you sometimes go astray
Love
Through all the ups and downs the joys and hurts
Love
For better or worse I still will choose you first

Verse 2:
Many days I've longed for you
Wanting you
Hoping for the chance to get to know you
Longing for your love
For your word your touch, for your blessings
Many nights I've cried from the things you do
Felt like I could die from the thought of losing you
I know that you're real
With no doubts and no fears
and no questions,

Chorus:
Love
So many people use your name in vain
Love
those who have faith in you sometimes go astray
Love
Through all the ups and downs the joys and hurts
Love
For better or worse I still will choose you first

Bridge:
Love
At first you didn't mean that much to me
But now I know you're all I need, Lord
The world looks so brand new to me
Now that I found Jesus
Everyday I live for you
And everything that I do I do it for you
What I say is how I feel so believe it's true
You got to know I'm true, Lord

The Week of The Observer

WhatAreYouLQQkingAt

I’ve been extremely busy working full time, part time and trying to establish TramueL Consulting {Controlled Emotional Response}  add the stress & shade from starting a new job {the full time position} but that’s not the point. All of that to say sorry I haven’t been commenting & providing my intelligently hedonistic thoughts all up on your page. I’ve even neglected my standard bi-weekly post.

 … any who I felt compelled to share my observations because I’ve been receiving the same message delivered in different formats. I guess that means I should share …

Twitter

Tweet

*Shout out to @Scrumptious1 if she ever reads this

Personal Conversation

{Paraphrased}

“I’m not looking” “I’m going to focus on me and mine” “Relationships are too complicated”

Observation

Why do we reinvent ourselves when a relationship begins? We buy new drawz, shave {for men beards, for women … never mind} fix our hair, hide relatives sometimes kids Chris Rock quote: “We send our representative” Men lie about resources, women lie about what they want. Science proves it. Class.

Why do we reinvent ourselves when a relationship ends? We eat better, start exercising, buying new things “in with the new, out with the old” right? Eat right. Feel good. Look great. New friend. Complacency. Repeat. The end.

Do As I Say Not As I Do

Do those things while you are in a relationship, encourage each other, support each other. Why won’t you be great together? Hold each other accountable … just a thought.

Mr. “it’s very late & I’ve been at work since 10 a.m. so ignore this weird post” TramueL

Resist vs. Don’t Resist

Resist: "You got to Love God enough to resist what isn’t of God. Resist means to say something about it. To say No. To stand without compromising yourself, without compromising your integrity. To Love God enough means to be God’s friend, to be like a child. To go to battle as a warrior! Heart battle. Out of love, never out of pride."

Don’t Resist: "To wait and see. To never answer an unwise person, to never try to bring correction on a hurt, tormented, or angry fellow, peer, stranger, co-worker. It means to stay and do your best, even to give your other cheek…ouch! All with the expectation of letting the matter where it is, no where your pride want to go. Guts to be humble and recognize that we all are humans, the Supernatural is God in us…if we let Him."

Always inspiring ...

This post was taken from Peeling the orange's Blog on Wordpress ... one of my new favorites!

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YOUR PAYMENT IN CBN

Dear Friend

I know that you might be surprise on this mail, but I am telling you the truth. I know that it is against my official duty to release confidential issue like this to an outsider. There is nothing I can do to help you beside this, I am taking this bold step because of my belief as a Christian.

What I want to tell you is about your contract payment with the Federal Government of Nigeria, there are a lot forces working against you right from the last CBN Governor Chief Joseph Sanusi and the current Governor Prof Charles Soludo, they have been frustrating you by demanding upfront payment from you constantly, If I tell you that they are using all these money you sent to them to work against you, you might not believe it. But it is reality.

There is a way I can assist you get your fund without you paying any charges to get your fund, it is risk but one have to take it, I have assisted one woman from Mexico with it, it worked out though her fund was US$10.5m.

What you have to do is to open another bank account any where, if you can open it in another place, it will be nice, but what you have to bear in mind is that you have to retransfer the fund to another account immediately you confirmed it in your account, I know why I want it this way.

If you want me to go ahead, let me know as soon as you get this mail, if I make the transfer on this week, it might be next month that they will find out and by then, you have retransferred the fund into another account.

Get back to me as soon as you get this fax, via email:

mrs.rutheze002@hotmail.com

,so that I will be in better position to know what to do.

Sincerely yours,

DR.MRS RUTH EZE

KTT Dept CBN.

Tel:234-802-032-9062

As soon as I get my $10.5MM US Dollars ...

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Random Thoughts at a Traffic Light

I’m getting the hang of posting from my cell phone via e-mail. The title suggest that I’m texting while driving, however I was safely pulled over at the time of this writing. I mean to have done so would not have been prudent, not at that juncture.

Random Observations  About Nothing & Everything

I thought about a conversation I had with a “Princess” at work the other night, she is a very attractive twenty something who has caught the attention of an older gentleman whom she has no interest. Her words: “Man, he’s about your age!” *Ouch* “He sent me a text at 6ix a.m. … I’ma need him to not be thinking about me that early.” I responded with uncontrollable laughter. Maybe you had to be there.

Small Businesses are suffering during these trying economic times. I could choose which dry-cleaner to drop clothes off, now it seems they’ve all but disappeared. The 2wo near my home, the 1ne near my barbershop. Null.

There seems to be a switch in the number of sustainable relationships among some of my non-love relationships: family, work and friends. Maybe during the summer people don’t wanna be attached? Anywho … I’ve notice that the stages after an initial break up never seem to vary from the script: At first there is the realization,  actual realization, denial and bitterness before they move on. Right now everyone is holding in the actual realization phase. I can’t wait for what unfolds in the bitterness stage! Somebody might come up missing! {Yep. A.W. & C.C. I’m talking ‘bout ya’ll}

I thought about a meeting the other day and the facilitator was yielding a mighty weapon. Im’a need you to know the difference between ask and axe.

Mr.TramueL’s Law: Anything that begins well will end badly.

{Note: The converse of Mr.TramueL’s law is not true}

Live Well,

This has been a TramueL Truism presentation.

No Shade

Literally

I attended a beautiful wedding on Sunday July 4th, 2010 at Bernard's Landing over looking Smith Mountain Lake. The set up was beautiful; imagine a clear field of rolling, green grass, your eyes stop just where the grass meets the sand and right before the cool inviting water. Rows of white chairs in the foreground each with their own very unique guest. A small alter provided sensible elegance. The temperature stayed around 97 degrees and the skies were clear. Did you read that? I wrote 97 degrees, open field, sun bearing down on us. No Shade.

Figuratively

The wedding was for a couple with whom I attended high-school, I wasn’t invited directly but went as a “plus one” for a friend that needed an arm piece *I clean up real nice* The majority of the guest in attendance were former classmates that I haven’t seen in years. Years. There were folk representing four years up and four years down from my graduating class. It has been my experience over the years that when I run into folk from school they seem to hold onto claiming attitudes and memories of yesteryear “Play Acting” … Sunday was rather proud of itself, it recognized that a smug attitude antagonizes those around you.

No Shade.

The conversations were light-hearted and genuine. Ego’s were dropped, expectations were dropped, everyone was relaxed and allowed things to happen. Great food, great atmosphere, great music, great drink … Great time. Congratulations to the happy couple! and thank you for allowing me to share in the celebration of your love and commitment.

Magic Always,

LOVE is a serious mental disease - Plato

Mr. “I'm okay with being Mental” TramueL

Silly Bandz

Silly Bandz - Rubber band-like figures that are worn as bracelets, and can be made into shapes like animals. Immensely popular among elementary-aged school children.

I’m Mr.TramueL and I wear Silly Bandz. Admitting is the first step.

So every morning on my way out the door I take great care to grab my cell, watch, bluetooth stereo headset, my pocket armor {A shield my mama gave me and a bookmark with my favorite scripture on it}, any loose change, my books and last but not least my silly bandz.

Folk recognize them and ask what they are or laugh in amusement that a grown man is wearing them, an associate even asked why … “I thought they were for children?” I told her I would get back to her.

The BIG Get Back

Little Mr.TramueL had me drive to four Walgreens, Books-A-Million, and some snoody-ta-doodie {Oh they fancy huh?} toy store in the middle of the night so he wouldn’t be the last in his class to have them. {The things we do for our kids} But he is so handsome, add the fact that he looks like me … I had to please myself. *Pause*

I like to take his silly bandz while he’s asleep

Fathers must understand these critical needs of every child

1. Loving Discipline
2. Unconditional Love
3. Anger Management
4. Protection from the harmful influences of our culture
5. Knowing God

Father’s Day was another opportunity for me and self-analysis, you see I hadn’t heard from my daughter and both boys were with me. My teenage son didn’t utter one word about Father’s Day but little Mr.TramueL had given me a father’s day painting a few days earlier. He also {without a prompt from his mother} told me Happy Father’s day. Told me he & BIG bro were taking me out for dinner but I would have to pay. 0_O

I’ve always thought of myself as a pretty good father. I provided for their  material needs, did all of the for “show”  things but must admit that I’ve failed at giving focused attention and fulfilling their emotional needs. Spending enough time that they thought they were the most important people in the world to me. {Which they are} Finding time to focus on my children has been and is one of the greatest challenges of parenting. I wish that I recognized this earlier with respect to  my daughter and first son, which probably explains why they only seem to reach out to me when they need something. I remember being that age and wondering why my parents didn’t provide for my material needs, it was because they were taking great care to provide for my spiritual needs.

I wear the silly bandz because little Mr.TramueL gave them to me, he makes me feel like I’m the most important person in the world. His unconditional love, shows me how to love others despite my sins, shortcomings and failures.

Magic Always,

Mr. “Transforming through my opportunities” TramueL

Corporate VS The Streetz

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So I’m back in Corporate America and I remember why I had a calm sense of peace about myself two years ago when I received the tap, the talk and the package. “Workforce Reduction”

Business jargon, buzz words, acronyms, phrases, functional and non-functional cosmetic job title’s all kill me. Kill me.

“Bubble Up”

Corporate: Escalate a situation to someone with more authority than you. Dare to be average.

Streetz: From the process of cooking crack. To become wealthy at a rapid rate. The come up.

“Casual Friday”

Corporate: A day to unwind from the grind of “business casual” through the week.

Streetz: A day to unwind from the grind.

“Team Meetings”

Corporate: The BIGgest waste of time. Where things don’t get done.

Streetz: An outing at the club, bar or someone’s house to discuss all things creative. *Wink*

“’Shoot Me’ an email”

Corporate: To create an email outlining the discussion which you didn't have time to discuss.

Streetz: I would advise against saying anything with the words “shoot me”

“The BIG Picture”

Corporate: Understanding of the complete business model from a holistic perspective.

Streetz: Understanding of the complete business model from a hustlers perspective.

“BOSS”

Corporate: Back Office System typically found in financial institutions.

Streetz: A person who is a leader, someone who runs things in his/her city.

“CEO”

Corporate: Chief Executive Officer

Streetz: Anyone with a business card {Vista Print} and an idea or dream.

Tweni Twidi Twici

“I was finally around people that understood me and I didn’t have to explain myself to them. I didn’t have to explain my excessive use of twitter because everyone else in the room was using it too. People didn’t look at me crazy when I told them I was a blogger. It was like finally meeting your real family (sorry mama but I still love you). It was cool to finally meet people that you knew about from on-line. Also it was cool to meet new people for the first time.” 

This excerpt is from @CitizenOjo 's *Follow Him on Twitter* experience at the Blogging While Brown conference in the nations capital … he is blazing in the Blogging Firmament with The Desultory Life & Times of a Public Citizen 

I’ve never fancied *Did I just write “Fancied” ? … Don’t answer* myself a writer | blogger, I was simply someone with too much time on my hands. Over the past year and few months of being a part of this social media whirl, I’ve learned to manage my own expectations but also realized the power of social media in business and personal life. Power may be too strong a word for most folk so I’ll *Insert* usefulness. 

Personally, I’m not trying to push an agenda or save the world but allow the voices in my head to speak *I have to translate because they speak Spanish*

Mr. Ojo’s statement above gives me the perfect flow over my imperfect beat.  

I’m Mr.TramueL and I tweet.

Break Up To Make Up

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Not So Random Chick: “Mr.TramueL I’m through! What’s the best way to tell him it’s over?”

*Flashback* To the best way I’ve never been dumped. Okay, check.

Mr.TramueL: “I think you should do it during the day, preferably during lunch, in a crowded place, drive separate cars and give the speech after you eat. {I was mad hungry and wasn’t so lucky, the death grip to my testicles was delivered before the meal!} … so don’t be cruel Bobby Brown, let them enjoy that last meal.

I’m not a real therapist, but I  play a representative of advice & counsel in real life. Two separate and unrelated conversations prompted me to write. One up top and …

Not So Random Dude: “Mr.TramueL I met you how long ago?” “You don’t have somebody you seeing?” “You still doing that five year and out isht?” {All rhetorical I assume ‘cause he didn’t allow me to respond}

Mr.TramueL: *Blank Stare. Blink.Blink*

The Detached Observer

Background of Not So Random Chick is that she allowed a man to take up residence literally and figuratively while he struggled with employment, child support and “mother of his child” issues. All the while she is holding down the fort without asking him for nay thing’

Not So Random Dude would go on to say that life is too short for any man to spend without a special someone in their life. The dichotomy between the two situations is need. As much as a woman needs to feel she is loved, a man needs to know he is needed|respected. For a man it can be emasculating when he “feels” that he is not respected or needed. I said feel. {Ya’ll are tuff}

Naturally she called bullisht, but I explained that I wasn’t offering an excuse … I mean she asked me "Why is he showing out?" Mr.TramueL’s Observation: Although she expressed love by taking care of him, supporting him and giving him the bizness, in his mind he feels that  she didn’t meet or fulfill the “need” of being needed. He probably went somewhere to play captain save-a-hoe.

Experiential Schooling,

Mr. “I might catch some heat over this” TramueL

Mr.TramueL's Law of Location

No matter where you park there will always be (I) someone who will park right next to you regardless of the number of empty spaces in the parking lot. (II) That same person will wait for you to close your door so that they can park their car.

Harm None,

Me

Observationalist

To make aware and influence by the thoughts and ideas based on social, economic and cultural background.

Smooth Criminal

Water cooler talk:  The Weather, The Weekend, Father’s Day, Beautiful Women, Children, The Lottery …

Them: “Money can’t make you happy”

Me: “I just want the chance to prove that theory wrong.” I’m just playing, unless I win.

The conversation progresses past my need to be witty, I was trying to hide the fact that I haven’t acquired a taste for this person.

Them: “What would you do with all of that money?”

Me: “Educate myself, travel, take care of my family & do God’s work.”

Deep bows, I’m sorry but I wanted to pull them in. The reason I may have not acquired a taste for this person is because of a recent conversation about “safety” “hood terms” “myths” & “stereotypes.”

*1…2…3…Break* I’m fitna’ {ATL shawty!} get in trouble because I’ve been labeled as “aggressive” {not their word but the best way to describe it} by someone I “Four Letter Word Beginning In L and Ending In E” this is someone who’s approval I desperately seek but seem to vex with some of my observations.

*Blue 21, Blue 21, Hut, Hut, Hut* I’m not an activist, but I am aware of my environment and the effect that it has on me, you, us. Today I coin the phrase “Observationalist” – To make aware and influence by the thoughts and ideas based on social, economic and cultural background. Now … Hip somebody else.

Of Safety, Hood Terms, Myths & Stereotypes

In an effort to not be “that guy” the person with whom I haven’t acquired a taste for tried to assimilate and associate with the masses by speaking negatively of & on what folk perceive as poor neighborhoods. Having lived in most of the neighborhoods in question I felt it was only right to be “that guy” and educate. “They either don’t show, don’t know or don’t care about what’s going on in the hood.”

“Those neighborhoods” … yeah they care about property values too. Yeah they care about their community too, yeah they care about empowerment too, yeah they care about opportunities for youth too. *Fast Forward one of their comments was about criminals, criminal activity, to which I sarcastically responded crime effects everyone and no community is immune from it, but I digress … the point in one of my teaching moments was that folk return from jail and are treated unfairly, we take away their right to vote, deny them housing and discriminate against them with regards to employment.

The wrap up: (1) What I would do with the money? Work with the city, county, Sherriff’s department to break the cycle for offenders. Develop youth programs, mentoring programs and scholarships. They gotta eat or they might hit someone over the head. God’s work? (2) Interestingly enough I told the person with whom I haven’t acquired a tatse for that they were criminals, we are all criminals, we have never gotten caught. What if you got caught smoking that ooooo weeee! you serve your time, get released but you couldn’t rent an apartment, you weren't able to vote, and you lost your dream job working the frosty machine at Wendy’s?

Man this is long! I’m freestyling ‘cause I’m at work.

Translation: 8 Weeks of training.

Translation: Google Reader ‘cause they block me from tweet’n and you know how much I love Twitter! Shout out Ms.Nikks! Shout out Buzz Can Tweet!

Oddly enough look what I found a day after the mis-education of someone I haven’t acquired a taste for "I'm a criminal and so are you"

Live Well,

Mr. "That Guy" TramueL